My 11 Yr old behaviour

[Tobo22]

I recently had an email from my daughters school to request a meeting with myself and the pastoral care team. The said my daughter had raised a number of worries recently and they needed to discuss her night terrors with me.
My daughter to my knowledge has never had a night terror. She sleeps really well..i always check her every hour or so after she goes to bed and i always wake her in the morning. Shes a happy child, goes to bed happy..never shows any sign of a bad nights sleep. And if she is having terrors why has she talked to school but not me? Why didn't she come to me at the time of it happening? Should I ask her about it or pretend not to know? I'm so confused?? Why would she make this up? Anyone had kids behave like this? What's the best approach?

Ok, don't worry first and foremost. There will be some kind of explanation. I wouldn't say anything to your daughter (unless she is showing signs of being upset or not her usual self) until you have spoken to school.

Is she in year 7? Kids can tell quite tall tales sometimes to keep up with their peers. It is possible that a friend has been semi- boasting, semi- scared about seeing a scary film and your daughter has got carried away making up her own stories about having nightmares and it has then escalated and got "too big" to back out of.

Or, perhaps she is feeling the need for additional attention at school and found a way of getting it that again has escalated.

So, I'd wait and see what school have to say. Find out what has happened from their perspective. You can assure them you've not noticed anything untoward and then have a calm chat with your daughter afterwards when you know the facts.

If she has been making up stories, I would try if you can to see what the need is behind the action ( trying to get on with friends or have more attention) and then talk to her about other ways to do this as well as the actual making up of stories.

Did they mention what the other worries might be?