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5 year old behavioural issues

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Angeldelight1555 · 22/01/2026 17:00

I need advice! My 5 year old son, is the loveliest and sweetest little boy when he wants to be. However for the last 6 months especially he has been rude constantly in class. Shouting over his teacher, storming out of class and hitting other children and has now resorted to spitting in people's faces at school. The school call me regularly with updates on his behaviour and he has a book which his teacher updates daily so I can see how he's been. However when he gets home and I try and speak to him or correct his behaviour etc he screams and crys for hours on end and won't calm down. This happens a few times a week and it's taking its toll on the whole family. We have tried sending him to his room, naughty step, taking away toys, cancelling fun plans However nothing is working. When we reset he does have a chat with us and promises to behave and some days we go a few days with good behaviour and I start to feel hopeful but then I'll get the dreaded call from school and it's back to reality. For context he has a lovely happy home and him and his sister are loved for than anything However myself and his father had a divorce 4 years ago. I wonder sometimes if this is the reasoning behind it but he was so little when it happened that he has never seemed overly phased by it and is just used to going to daddies every other weekend. I need some advise. I feel like I can't speak to anyone because I don't want people to judge him. Thanks in advance

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SleafordSods · 23/01/2026 09:08

No one is going to judge him @Angeldelight1555, it sounds as though he is struggling with the school environment.

What have the School done to support him so far? Have they offered anything like Zones of Regulation?

How does he do on this simple progress checker?

1415isgreat · 27/01/2026 21:29

I just came on Mumsnet to make a thread of my own on this topic. It’s so tough as a parent and I don’t have advice because I’m after some myself, but hoping things get better for him soon 🌺

SleafordSods · 28/01/2026 08:16

I’m sorry that you’re struggling too @1415isgreat. I’m not sure that this poster is coming back though. Have you tried starting your own thread? Flowers

Angeldelight1555 · 20/04/2026 21:53

Thank you all for your replies! I feel awful, I don't have the app so didn't recieve any notifications to say I had replies and forgot to check. Thankfully since my last post (and I don't want to jinx it) but my little boy's behaviour has improved significantly, it's not perfect but we are getting there. Not sure what has changed but it's a huge relief. Hope everyone else finds a bit of peace somewhere in this crazy life of parenting! 🙂

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TinyMouseTheatre · 21/04/2026 07:17

Glad things have improved Smile

loryN22 · Yesterday 14:57

Angeldelight1555 · 22/01/2026 17:00

I need advice! My 5 year old son, is the loveliest and sweetest little boy when he wants to be. However for the last 6 months especially he has been rude constantly in class. Shouting over his teacher, storming out of class and hitting other children and has now resorted to spitting in people's faces at school. The school call me regularly with updates on his behaviour and he has a book which his teacher updates daily so I can see how he's been. However when he gets home and I try and speak to him or correct his behaviour etc he screams and crys for hours on end and won't calm down. This happens a few times a week and it's taking its toll on the whole family. We have tried sending him to his room, naughty step, taking away toys, cancelling fun plans However nothing is working. When we reset he does have a chat with us and promises to behave and some days we go a few days with good behaviour and I start to feel hopeful but then I'll get the dreaded call from school and it's back to reality. For context he has a lovely happy home and him and his sister are loved for than anything However myself and his father had a divorce 4 years ago. I wonder sometimes if this is the reasoning behind it but he was so little when it happened that he has never seemed overly phased by it and is just used to going to daddies every other weekend. I need some advise. I feel like I can't speak to anyone because I don't want people to judge him. Thanks in advance

School behavior plus hours long meltdowns at home… yeah something’s driving that, not just “naughty”. Rewards and punishments won’t fix it alone. Maybe worth looking into emotional or sensory stuff, something deeper going on.

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