Quick! Going to see dd1's teacher in a bit about a HORRIBLE 'secret' some others girls told her

[Moomin]

Am I overreacting?

Dd1 came home the other day and said had decided not to be in a Secret club that some of the others girls were in at playtimes anymore. She said that two (named) girls had said that one of their secrets was that they out their brothers' willies in their mouths and sucked out all the wee. Dd1 was very matter of fact about it but said she thought this was disgusting and not the sort of secret she wanted to know so she had told them she didn't want to be in their club anymore.

I agreed it was horrible and rude but after telling her I thought she had been very sensible, we didn't talk about it again - didn't want to make abig deal of it.

However I told a collegaue yesterday (we're both 2ndary teachers) and she was shocked and said that, at best, these kids should be told how inappropriate this is and, at worst, could be a child protetcion issue. So I'm going to have a word with the teacher just to let her know about this silly club and give her a heads up on it. Do you think?

Well I think it depends on the child really. We have always been very open with the dds (well dd1 really because of her age). No question goes unanswered, although obviously we make our answers 'age-appropriate'. Hopefully this is why she felt confident and unashamed in talking to me about it in the first place.

But I was talking to another friend yesterday whose dd is in the same class and she said that her dd would have reacted very differently - she predicted her dd would think it was disgusting but hilarious and probably wouldn't have told her mum. and that's no relfection on my friend or her dd, it's just different personalities.

I'm wondering if one of the girls at school has found a porn mag at home when she's been ferreting about, or as someone else suggested, she's walked in on her mum and dad ?

oh my godness my ds is in ear one and would never even know such a thing. no make sue you speak to her this is unacceptable, wh would some one of such young age know these things

If she had walked in on her parents do you think the story would still have involved her?
If a porn mag, or anything not involving her how would she know about"sucking out the wee" a still photo would not have that much detail.
I think you have done the right thing and that the authorities now handle it thoroughly but with sensitivity

Ooh Moomin, how very grotty (and worrying)
You did ABSOLUTELY the right thing telling the teacher. It may be nothing very serious - though someone surely knows more than she should aged 6 years,which is itself a cause for concern - but the staff need to know in order to monitor things.
Well done to your dd - she is so mature and sensible. You should be very proud.

(Its Slouchy, BTW, trying a possible new name)

They may well just have older siblings who have half heard something then told their younger sister. I heard all sorts of nonsense in this vein when I was young because my friend had older siblings who told her a load of (incorrect) stuff.

Good to let the teacher know though she can sort it out.

I would be quite worried if I heard a 6yr old say this, it's very age inappropriate sexual knowledge and you did the right thing in telling the teacher but do not speak to the parents of the girl.

Do you know if the girl has any older brothers?

At 6, a child could assume that ejaculation is wee, as they wouldn't know what else would come out of a penis.

what a great dd you have, hope mine are this sensible.

well done to your dd for telling you and understanding it was wrong, school have a process to deal with this. I once had a similar discosure when I used to work in schools and it turned out my worry was founded.

I have to say that I know a similar story to that told by Bubblagirl, in this case a 4 year old girl had been told by a 11 year old boy to do something similar as it tasted as a lollypop. So there, it may happen even when the perpetrator is also a child, good that you talked to the teacher and hopefully she is intelligent enough to follow your complaint through.

AbsoLUTely you must talk to the teacher. I would say it's likely to be a sign of abuse. Even if it isn't, it needs to be investigated. The sky won't fall in if you do say something, but if you don't, a child could be at serious risk. Not worth taking chances with. Good luck.
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You should be proud of your daughter and you did the right thing to let the teacher know. Hopefully it is all completely innocent.
Some children are more sexually aware and they might have older brothers and sisters who talk about this kind of thing, and then it gets muddled in their head. Hope everything is ok.