I'm just hoping that someone reading will have a similar child and be able to give me some guidance.
DS6 is a lovely boy. But its almost like there are two versions of him. For a few months we'll get the lovely, settled and for want of a better word 'normal' version of him. There will be the odd moment of tantrums etc but nothing out of the ordinary for your usual six year old. He is a generally a delight to be around.
Then overnight it is like a switch has been flipped - and for the next few months, he very much struggles to regulate his emotions. Becoming very aggressive and screaming and shouting over the slightest thing. He is awful to his sibling during these times, blames them for everything and is obsessed with everything being 'fair'. He also becomes very difficult in terms of not listening and not doing anything you ask of him.
At school he is generally fine and they see no issues - he generally saves his vitriol for me and his dad and his sibling.
We have questioned whether there could be some level of ND, in fact when he is in his 'flipped' state I feel it for certain. But then for months he is so settled and shows no signs at all. I know people can mask - but for months on end?
I just don't know how to help him. But the weeks on end of aggression and screaming are ruining our family.