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At Wits End with DD7

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RedxRobin · 15/01/2026 10:53

I don't know what to do about DD7. She is increasingly getting more and more anxious about things. She will work herself into tears about the smallest things which will then go into an anxiety spiral that can last for an hour.

Last week she made herself sick at the thought of being picked up from school by a friend who was babysitting (our friend has babysat lots and we've been on holiday together etc so it is not like it is a stranger or someone she doesn't like). On the weekend it was because she was worried that we wouldn't be able to fix a toy (it was easily fixable and works now).

It feels like almost every day there is a new issue and it is exhausting. On top of that she also lies constantly. Not even about big things but also just a lot of little inconsequential things. It has come to a point where it is difficult to know if anything she tells us is true. We have spoken to her about this on numerous occasions but she still does it.

She also talks about having tummy aches and problems breathing (she breathes completely normally - this only seems to be when she is in her anxiety spiral) - we have pointed it is probably a side effect of her being anxious but this doesn't help.

We just don't know what to do. Do we speak to the school? Do we take her to the Dr? We are at a loss. We were hoping things would improve but if anything it is getting worse.

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Coldcoffeekindamorning · 16/01/2026 12:21

What is she like otherwise? What does school say? How do you handle it when she gets anxious?

SleafordSods · 17/01/2026 15:25

She sounds very similar to our DD who is now diagnosed with AuDHD. We had multiple visits to the GP from around 6 FIf tummy pains. I now realise ot was the anxiety.

I think in your position I would talk to the School Nurse Service for your area avd say that she’s having anxiety to a level that it is affecting her daily life and see if they can suggest anything.

I would also look at ways to help her anxiety like guided meditation, there should be a few for her age on YouTube, a weighted blanket and maybe a book like There’s a Puppy in my Head or one of the others recommended here.

When You Worry Too Much: 25 Books to Help Kids Overcome Anxiety, Worry, and Fear

The top books on helping kids overcome anxiety and worry for children, teens, and parents.

https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=22612

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