3 and half year old suspected adhd

[Supermama93]

Hey, was just wondering if anyone could shed some light, I feel all alone right now, I know nothing can be done until my daughter is at least 5! She's 3 and half now and she's honestly on the go from the second she wakes up to the second she goes to bed! She's always been quite emotional over the tiniest things from dropping a bit of food on the floor or the table i had to clean it up STRAIGHT away other wise she'd refuse to eat now she's older she understands we can clean it when she's done somtimes she'll be fine with that somtimes she'll kick off until it's cleaned! Recently she has 2 bottles green one bedtime and the purple one is for morning time God help me if I get it wrong she psychically will not put it to her mouth and I have to switch them over! If it's a bit wet with drips she won't even take it and then inspects it to make sure it's dry! She does roly poly's on my sofa doing head stands, my sofa is fucked from all the jumping and headstands, she was doing so well with potty training but now out of the blue it's like it's a rush to go somtimes she doesn't even attempt to run for the potty she'll just stand there and wet her self, even for a poo she'll run scream for me cause she can't hold it anymore! Sorry it's a long one but I just feel lost and no one actually listening to me, I did mention to the health visitor about it could be normal toddler behaviour when she was 2 but a year on its just getting worse but she's not like this in nursery! Infact it's taking her about a year to actually start talking there! They used to ask me if she talks I told them she doesn't stop! She's so loud she physically hurts my brain somtimes If you got this far then thank you I'm sorry it's a long one 🙈

I'm sure someone with ND experience will be along with helpful advice too, but just to say - my now 5 year old did all those things and it was just normal behaviour at that age. The headstands/roly polys on the sofa, really boisterous play absolutely non.bloody.stop all day, dropped his nap early but still just constant energy! Picky about particular cups/plates etc was just him exercising some control which again is totally normal. He was also completely different in nursery, as many children are as they feel safest with parents (lucky us 😂) so they let out all their wild side with us.

Again, maybe someone will be along with ND experience to offer a different view point - but my now 5 year old is doing well in school, socially well adjusted but is still a bundle of energy who we have to run like a border collie (i.e. lots of physical exercise outside of school) and cannot tolerate much screen time at all! There's a reason they don't 'label' them at this age, as there's such a broad spectrum of 'normal' behaviour when they're young. Totally understand your feeling overwhelmed though, its a lot when you have a high energy child but you're a loving parent doing the best you can and thats what counts :)

Yeah I did mention it on the phone to them when she was 2 I understand it could just be normal toddler behaviour butt just on the off chance she's not grown of it by 5-6 at least I got it noted she's been like it since 2 but she's honestly got so much worse since then! 🤣 both my niece and nephew have autism so my sister is kinda used to dealing with ND but she even said my daughter is even more hardwork then her two put together 🤣🙈

If your niece and nephew both have ASD then you’re probably aware that it’s often hereditary and it’s more likely that your DD may have it too?

My DD has AuDHD and I was told time and time again that it was all normal behaviour but in my gut I just knew that it wasn’t.

The first thing I would do is this simple progress checker.

Let us know the result and we can advise you what to do next

I've tried to do that link but nothing comes up apart from telling me to do some tips 🤣 it's hard cause she don't show signs at playgroup! The amount of times they asked me if she speaks cause she never used to speak there I used to tell them she don't shut up! She's been there a year and she's finally started to speak more but somtimes she speaks that much it physically hurts ny head cause it's it's like 10 things one sentence and it's not slow talking either it's quite fast and loud!

Sorry about that @Supermama93. Does this link work?