My Toddler is 18 months old. I still can't put him to sleep before 21 and still not in under 1 hour. Is this normal. It takes ages to make him sleep. We tried starting earlier, later.. when my partner carries him, it takes 10 minutes, when he lies down with him it takes 20 minutes.. unfortunately I can't carry him so with me we're lying down for 1, 1 and half hours while he bites me, tries to make me get up, escapes the bed, starts pulling out the toys, and once he actually is getting sleepy he starts flat out crying as if he was burnt alive.. same story with day nap, but in daycare they say he lies down on his own and sleeps. Don't tell me it's a phase since it's been going for all his life that there's no reliable sleep .. will there be a day we will have an evening to ourselves without sacrificing sleep.. I mean I really don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't want to be selfish and make my partner put him to sleep always but it's literally taking me 4 times longer. Sometimes I just have to stop and go to the toilet, and then we're back at the start. I'm exhausted and extremely frustrated. Often I get sleepy before my toddler and actually wait for him to sleep so that I can sleep too. But then I need to pee, brush my teeth, clean.. And what, he gets up at 6:30-7:30, full of energy, wakes me up..