6yr old speaks to me so rudely infront of other people?

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Hi all,

i want some advice on how to handle our 6yr old speaking so rudely to us infront of other adults when we are out with friends/family.

if I ask him to stop doing something or calm down if he’s being to loud he turns around and says oh stop it you, I hate you, go stuff it, I’ll do what I want.

these are not phases we use at home and if I’m honest I’m so on edge about what he might say, I offered him something to eat at a family party and he said no but I’ll eat your head, it’s the tone and the way he says things. My family and friends seem to have the calm well spoken kids and mine is on the wild side 😂 (could be the disrespectful side though)

he does use manners most of the time and plays great with other children.

One word: consequences.

Warn DS that should he speak to you rudely at any time in any place, he will be removed from the fun and taken home (or sent to his room if at home already). Then follow through. Do not waver: leave the party, restaurant, gathering and home he goes and straight to his room. Husband/partner must follow the same rules. DS will soon get the message.

Is it a way of gaining attention? Thinking he's impressing someone?

I'd have probably laughed at the I'll eat your head response as it's typical six year old boy immaturity but for the other examples there'd be one warning and then he'd been taken away from wherever we were.

What do you do wheb he speaks to you like this?

Thanks for feedback, I basically keep saying stop it or give him the eyes which don’t seem to work, I find it hard to tell him we are leaving and just leave as it would ruin everyone’s evening but I really think it’s the only way and I’m sure if I do it once/twoce that’s it ! (Family and friends tell me he will outgrow it and it’s normal but I don’t remeber being this cheeky to my parents and I think at 6 he should have a better understanding of listening and not being so rude) I’m just hoping he won’t use it in reverse mode, and start playing up on purpose when he dosnt want to be somewhere 😂.