Sorry for the long post I’m clearly at my wits end
My daughter is 2.5 and I am at my wits end with her. She has always been quite advanced with her speech and speaks very well and articulately however in the last 6 months this has ramped up her attitude and general rudeness. She has a 4.5 year old brother and her behaviour is always so
much worse when he’s around despite him not being rude at all. He often tries to explain to her how to talk kindly. I get a lot could be for attention but even when she’s getting attention it’s the same.
for example if I tell her to do something she might retort with ‘not a chance!’ Or really rudely saying ‘don’t talk to me go to the other room’
these are obviously phrases she hears at home but completely out of context e.g if she goes to throw something on the floor which she does all the time I’ll in a sing song way swipe it from her hand and say not a chance! Or if her and her brother are arguing constantly I’ll say if you two can’t play nicely or talk kindly you’ll have to go play in different rooms.
she will also pull faces a lot, she’s extremely expressive but this can be extremely rude especially as she’ll turn away from me and say ‘leave me alone or don’t talk to me when I’m telling her off
she spends her days throwing things in the floor in fits of ear if she can’t do something, she hurt herself anything triggers her and causes explosive response
i feel I am extremely consistent with boundaries, removing a toy if it’s been thrown etc but I really don’t know how to tackle the
attitude and just her being unkind in the way she speaks
she also hits an awful lot especially when she’s angry. She will always apologise after, often unprompted but the behaviour itself doesn’t change. I’ve tried teaching her alternatives etc but nothing seems to work
any tips or help??