4 month old rough age?

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My 4.5-month-old is an incredibly active, alert, and curious baby, and it’s been amazing to watch her become more aware of the world around her. At the same time, I’m finding this stage really challenging. It’s just me and my husband, so we’re constantly tag-teaming and never really get a break.

She seems to get bored very quickly, and within minutes can start whining, which often escalates into crying. It feels like we’re always trying to head off a meltdown — as if she’s permanently frustrated no matter what we do. We’re really mindful of her wake windows so she doesn’t get overtired, and we offer lots of variety: sensory play, walks outside, books, singing… but nothing seems to hold her attention for long.

I suppose I’m trying to work out whether this is something others have experienced. Is this level of frustration typical at this age, and does it ease once they can move around and play more independently? I could really use some words of encouragement. Sometimes I feel quite alone — not just because we don’t have much of a support network, but also because the babies in our NCT group all seem so chilled by comparison (and yes, I know comparison isn’t helpful, but it’s hard not to).

I’m very aware that every stage brings its own challenges, and I know the toddler years won’t be a walk in the park either — but did anyone else find this particular age especially tough? I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who struggled at this stage and came out the other side, as a very burnt-out mum could really use a bit of hope

I have a 4.5 month old and the past week or so have been a struggle. His sleeping has got a lot worse - waking every 2 or 3 hours overnight, screaming when we put him down for bed, resisting naps, having really short naps and being fussy and grumpy. To be fair to him though he does have a cold and a cough and possibly teething which is all making things worse.
I remember with my older son that 4-6 months was quite tough. Nothing really holds their attention and sometimes they’ll be ready for a nap after 1.5 hours, sometimes after 2.5, so it’s hard to plan your days.
From 6 months on I found things got better so that’s what I’m trying to remember this time round.
Sounds like you’re doing lots to keep her entertained which is great. But don’t feel like you have to do activity after activity. Sometimes this can overstimulate them and also make them fussy. I put my son in the highchair whilst I’m emptying the dishwasher and tell him what each item is and where it goes. They’re often happy with face to face interaction at this age. But yes, their attention span is short!