Son is 9 years old. Dad left in April…very suddenly…got with a woman he works with straight after. Been a tough year. My son has always been a handful, but I’m really struggling. Ex has the kids for 6 hours on a Saturday so he never has to deal with anything, whereas I get the brunt of everything. I work full time and do everything for the kids-cook, clean, buy their clothes, attend school meetings/performances. Take them on holiday, opticians, doctors, dentist.
My son:
-answers back
-never does anything first time
-TELLS ME what I can and can’t do
-demands things
-becomes angry instantly (he was shouting at 1am last night off because he wanted his Nintendo). He was only up because of NY
-He swears
-Lies
-refuses to do homework
-refuses to tidy his room
-everything is on his terms.
I feel like I have no control at all. He is waiting to be assessed for ADHD but even if he does have it, nothing in my life will change. Every day is a battle. How can a 9 year old love me so much but treat me like dirt?