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I am at wits end with my 17 year old and I'm worried about her

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ForAlertMintBiscuit · 23/12/2025 17:13

I have a 17 year old and a one year old. My daughters attitude is really bad and she constantly lashes out at me, gets angry, swears at me, she called me and my boyfriend selfish people for having another baby and I tell her if she doesn't like it then she can leave.

She treats me horribly and has made violent threats against me and my boyfriend. She also doesn't help out around the house .

She's very jealous of her baby sibling and she gets angry because he gets all my time and attention even though she's basically an adult.

She doesn't seem to care about anything and she finds eveything pointless, she wanted to do A levels but she was unable to do that due to not having the grades for it, she wanted to do a mechanics course but that course was full and it upset her alot.

She has an unhealthy fixation on extremist content and she has loads of photos of infamous figures who have murdered people, she even keeps them in photo frames on her window.

She doesn't have any friends, is a complete loner and she doesn't leave her room and she is hooked to the Internet, she swore at a teacher telling her to f off because the teacher told her to get off her phone and she walked out.

She used to do driving lessons but her driving instructor told her to drive automatic because she has low self confidence and has issues with not being able to process information quick enough and ever since then, she's given up on learning to drive entirely. She had a mental breakdown that lasted for hours when she was told to drive automatic and said she can't do anything.

I do try and tell her that alot of people drive automatic and automatic cars are becoming normal but she didn't have any of it.

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TTCJJB · 27/12/2025 15:51

What help have you had so far? Any referrals? What have you done about the photo frames?

SleafordSods · 27/12/2025 20:34

Will she see the GP? If not, have you spoken to your GP?

ForAlertMintBiscui · 07/01/2026 01:03

I have not spoken to my GP and I've tried to tell her to remove the frames but she hasn't. She's been reported to her colleges safegaurding for shouting at a teacher and I told them about the fixation on violent people but they wernt much help.

SleafordSods · 07/01/2026 07:33

I’m sorry I’ve not got much advice. Does she still go to college? Could you book a meeting with them to talk through your concerns?

The fixation on violent deaths is really concerning and I’m not sure what to say about that. If she won’t see the GP I think you need to go by yourself.

Have you also spoken to SS? I think at this point i would self refer before she becomes an adult.

Have you also spoken to Family Matters?

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