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I have an 11 month old boy and think he's not normal

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Dftm · 16/12/2025 22:49

Hi all,

Very sorry for the long post, but the struggle is becoming unbearable. I'm just a very upset and desperate first time mum that would love to either get some peace of mind or other mums' experiences...

I don't really know where to begin, but I have struggled with my son's hysterical screaming since he was born. He was never and still isn't interested in my face/eye contact, screamed hysterically in car seat/pram which obviously prevented me from enjoying leaving the house,but I've always still persisted. He has always also been a terrible sleeper which made getting anything done almost impossible. He hated a baby carrier also, but got used to a belt that I got with a seat on to carry him around...

Now the thing is, I thought things would get better by now? Any GP and health visitor that I have ever spoken to have said that he is absolutely fine, but I feel like I know that something is wrong? Surely he cannot be so upset most days? Surely no one would have babies if all of them were like this or am I just very naive?

Everyone I know or speak to or see have the loveliest of babies, while mine pushes me away when I try to hug him even? Then screams hysterically if I try again? Everything is such a struggle. My relationship with my partner is also completely ruined. I am so worried my son will be diagnosed with autism eventually even though I spend all of my time with him and he has 0 screen time or anything like that.

Any similar experiences?

OP posts:
FrankensteinsMonster · 17/12/2025 11:14

Have you ever taken him to see a chiropractor? Sounds like he is uncomfortable and may be due to tension in his body. My DS was like this his first few weeks and weekly sessions with the chiro for a month or two really helped. They will be able to tell you in the first session whether he has tension.
Any feeding issues? How is he with his milestones?

SleafordSods · 17/12/2025 15:00

If you think he may have ASD have you mentioned this to the HV? Has she booked you in for his 12 month check yet?

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