3 year old

[Sammywoko95]

Not sure if anyone can help or understand but for the sake of my mental health I need to reach out
So my 3 year old nearly 4 in under 3 weeks hes a very loving little boy but so testing at the minute I dread weekends im at home from work if im around he wont even touch his tea and if I eat my tea he does everything he knows he shouldnt I go for a bath hes banging on the door he wont go happily play with toys alone constantly wants me and dad to play then when we do play with him hes bored within 2 minutes and its like this everyday he goes to nursery 5 days a week he has slight issues at school main one being he doesnt listen which he definetly doesnt at home we have tried the getting down to his level and explaining non of that works time out and taking toys away doesnt work he will just move onto the next thing has anyone experienced any of this as I have no idea how to deal with it anymore I feel exhausted and starting to really feel down constantly feeling like im failing as a mum :(

I’m sorry you’re struggling, that does sound difficult to cope with.

If School think that he’s not listening have they referred him for a hearing test? Has he been assessed to see if he needs SaLT?

Has his Teacher mentioned any strategies that they are using, maybe Zones of Regulation?

For his behaviour at home you could try the book 10 days to a less defiant child.

We have outside of school support and shes due to come see us on 6th January hes had a hearing test that was all fine and school are working with us on next steps but I find things are worse at home than ever hes just constantly doing things he shouldnt and he knows it as he will stare at you whilst doing it but theres no punishments that work so its just a vicious circle and like groundhog day everyday

I totally get that normal methods of discipline simply don’t work with some DC. I really do recommend looking at the book 10 days to a less defiant child.

It’s good that he passed the hearing test so that Gué Ear has been ruled out. Hiw did he score on the SaLT progress checker that I linked to?

It says he needs support with his understanding will have to wait and see when his development worker comes to see how hes doing he was premature and was told he may have some issues but recently its just got out of control and I feel im always negative with him but he never gives me a reason to be positive or award him as hes always misbehaving

Are you in the UK @Sammywoko95? Only adking as my advice may differ if you’re not

Im in the uk

Ok so if you’re in the UK and the progress checker says that he needs some support with understanding, I would ask for a referral to SaLT and Portage.

I’m not sure which service the Development Worker is from or if she’s able to make those referrals for you. If she’s not, then the HV or GP can.

Has the Development Worker asked you to fill in any assessments before you see them?

And did you have a look at the book I recommended?