I wanted to know if this might be normal behaviour for a 13 year old. Well my son still has a primary school age mindset. For instance, he has a cousin who is a year older than him, they did everything together, they were into the same things. Well as soon as they got older, his cousin aged with her brain, yet my son's mind stayed 10, we vistited his cousin a couple weeks ago and she said to my son's dad in private that she doesn't like it when my son comes down anymore because it feels like she babysits him because of how immature he is. She was even having a grown up conversation with my son's dad and my son stuck his face soo close to his dad's face as if he wanted to be noticed. If I'm talking to him and he speaks to me he will talk loudly so everyone notices him. When we were round my mil's house, he was sulking so my mil put a programme on to keep him quiet and it worked, I personally wouldn't of done that, but we have a feeling my mil thinks he acts like a toddler so treats him like one. She has said on a few occasions that he needs to grow up. At school he knows he's not allowed into a particular building and he gets detentions if he does, well he's been doing it everyday with his mates and starts running around. When the teacher talks to him he giggles. He hasn't got ADHD or anything like that, we have had him tested. I honestly don't know what's wrong with him. Oh and his lying! He is incapable of telling the truth. I caught him in a lie by watching back on our camera and he says he can't remember. His great nan died around 4-5 year ago who my son barely remembers, he even uses her death to get out of trouble at school. One time to get out of a detention he started crying and told the teacher that he's not coming back on Monday because I'm moving him to another school, which is false! Since he's been at school he has said it's never his fault it's someone else's, the teachers hate him apparently according to him. Also once, his mate got hit by a car and had to be in crutches and couldn't go back to school that week, so instead of my son having sympathy, he started screaming at me while crying and saying he's got a bruise on his leg so it's broken he needs to go to hospital so they can put him on crutches. his grandparent overheard him on the phone to his mate telling him that he fake crys at school to get the teacher to feel sorry for him. He has been seen playing stick fights with his friends in mud, Infront of loads of cars , he rolls around in mud. One of his friends is autistic and one has ADHD, which i think is why my son told me he has ADHD which is why he's naughty, I told him even if he has got it it's no excuse for his behaviour. One of his other friends doesn't have any disabilities. We've tried putting him into clubs, karate, boxing and cadets, yet he keeps quitting, I think it's laziness. When he was going to cadets, there were a lot of kids his age but he only spoke or hung around with children 10 or younger. One time I asked him to wash up after dinner and he said he wanted to kill himself for making him wash up. I give him a curfew when and if I allow him out, when he got back late I said he can't go out for a while until I know I can trust him, he then screamed and cried asking why I care, and why can't I let him out all night and to come back when he wants, and how most parents don't care about their kids so why do I care about him. One time was a slap in my partners face, my partner had opened up to him about the abuse he suffered as a child by his own mum, my son smiled and said he wished he could go back to that day so he knows what being hit feels like 😳 something is wrong and I don't know what.
I've also just realised I don't a post about him a year ago, the only thing that has changed is the screaming, it's mainly emotionally immature.