DS is 8. He is by no means an angel and there have been incidents in school where I’ve had to go in to discuss behaviour etc. He won’t think twice about standing up for himself (don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing long term) but also has a quick temper and we are working on how best to try and control this.
Last year (year 2) a new girl joined their year group and they simply don’t gel. She goes out of her way to be horrible to him now and again, verbally and physically. I went in to speak to the teacher last year and her response was “she’s from a different part of the country” I tried to explain that doesn’t mean she can just be horrible to people but she didn’t seem to see much wrong in her behaviour 😳
This year, new teacher. My son received a note yesterday from this girl that said:
“Die childs name
You’re going to die”
DS didn’t respond to this and handed it to the teacher. (Proud of his reaction tbh!) How would you deal with this? Haven’t been able to go in this morning but planning to talk to his teacher at the end of the day or the head master.
** I feel at a bit of a loss with the school, they seem quick to punish my boy but not so quick to deal with anything horrible that happens to him 😩last year he missed a whole day of breaktimes because a TA said he strangled another boy on the swimming bus. Firstly they told me the wrong child and when I finally spoke to the right mum she informed me he didn’t actually strangle her son but had his arm around him 🙃 TA hadn’t actually witnessed it but taken the word of the children who like getting him into trouble!
Most recently he was playing tag with his year 5 friends and a boy in year 6 grabs hold of him, actually does strangle him and then throws him to the floor where he banged his head! I had to go into school the following day to talk to the head who didn’t seem all that concerned (year 6 lad has a horrible violent history- last year even broke a teachers foot!) he just said to me “there was a lot of not good behaviour that break time” okay cool, how badly does my child need to be hurt for you to give a crap?! I reminded him just how quickly my boy would be punished had he strangled a reception child! **
Sorry for rambling, just a couple of examples!
My boy is a tough cookie in many senses but I also found a song he’d written and the lyrics were all about how he could get people to like him! Broke my heart that he must feel this way.