a child in my child’s classroom has a bad influence on my child

[blueskies18]

There is a child in my child’s nursery that has a negative influence on him. A while ago, my three year old said “ not want to be kind. He wants to be mean like ...” He then used a rather unkind phrase as well. Today came in with a huge scracth around his neck. The same child has attacked him over something he could not remember. I had seen this child in the local park and kinda have sense of how aggresive he can get from being nice, kind to really nasty. Now, I have a child who can potentially look up at him and want to be like him. My child has also started to pinch children in the nursery, altough this is not very serious, I still do not want my child to pick up bad behaviour from his friends and act like those may need help.

Would it be too mean to ask teacher to seperate them and so that they do no play together? Please help me out here.

Both are at early years but I reckon the other child is ready to move up next year whereas my child will repeat a year in the same class.

How old is your child? My DS has been very much the same in terms of copying behaviour of older children. He hears them say something and he will copy it, I think it’s a way for him to try and fit in. I see it at the playground after school all the time but I also see the parents of those children doing absolutely nothing to stop some of the bad behaviour and inappropriate words. Whereas I always talk to my DS about how we shouldn’t say certain things and some things aren’t kind. My DS has just turned 4 and he is so much better, he does copy some things but he is overall a very kind and helpful child and is fully aware of what things he shouldn’t say.

All you can do is consistently teach your child what the right behaviour is and why they shouldn’t do certain things. Once they start understanding a bit better they should hopefully grow out of it

thank you so much for the reply and sharing your experience. This week he said togther with X we are bad boys. They are only 3 and 4 respectively. It does not matter how much we monitor what they watch and talk to them, they still pick up and copy others outside of the home. I will keep talking to them and sayign that that is not what we say at home or at school. Clearly other child needs help as well and I dont know how much a school can do. i will keep talkign to him and saying we do not accept and use those words at home.