Nightweaning breastfed baby

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My daughter is almost 14 months and is still breastfeeding. I am happy to continue to feed her at night but she is currently comfort nursing and going between the dummy and breast in a matter of minutes. Sometimes she can do this for about 30-45 minutes at night and I know at this point she is not requiring a milk feed, it’s just to soothe herself.
I am finding it really hard as she is wanting to lay latched on and will cry when I say no and spit her dummy out.

Any tips would be really appreciated, I will not use the cry it out method.
She does co sleep, has a dummy and has recently become increasingly attached to her cuddly duck.

I never minded comfort latching, even at night, BUT it never lasted 30 - 45 minutes during the night. That would be hard to take and I'd go from mildly drowsy to fully awake.

I never gave any of mine a dummy and they never co-slept, so I'm not sure if that's making these long comfort 'feeds' somehow happen. Maybe her dummy gets dislodged or your movements or sounds wake her up. I don't know.
My babies naturally dropped night feeds when they started getting full bellies from eating other foods.

All babies are different, but what is always the same, this stage doesn't last long in the grand scheme of things. This stage will be over very soon, and one day you might be like me, having happy memories of those quiet peaceful moments in the darkness with your little one.
My oldest boy is in his 50's now.

I'm raising my grandson with my youngest son who's been a single/sole parent to his baby since he was 2 months old. The baby is 3 now. My grandson sleeps at my house, which I love. He has a scruffy teddy he sleeps with, and is very attached to. When he stirs in the night, he reaches for teddy and cuddles him close to his face and goes back to sleep. He's been doing this for a few years. I think your baby's cuddly duck is a wonderful thing for her to have. Give the duck a name and always make sure he's part of her life during the day as well, to encourage the attachment. It helps teach them empathy. My grandson is still completely non verbal, we don't know yet why, and we were so happy when his first imaginative play was when he tried to try to feed his teddy a cookie. His care of teddy just grew from there. Up until that point, we were so worried he wasn't using any imagination.

I found 14 months hard with both of mine and moved them both to their own rooms at this age. Still BF but the number of times greatly reduced.

So my suggestion would be moving them to their own room, then when they are settled in there you could think about some gentle night weaning.

It’s so lovely that you are helping out your DS and your DGS. My youngest was also non-verbal.

Do you know if your DGS has had any referrals yet? Being non-verbal at 3 is unusual and I’d expect him to have at least been referred for a hearing test, some SaLT and Portage