Think I'm over analysing my 12 month olds every behavior

[FirstTimeAdoptiveMummy]

I think I'm over analysing my 12 months old every behavior

Please can someone put my mind at rest or tell me if I should be worried. I have an adopted 12 month old little girl who came home 3 months ago. I feel like I'm over analysing every single behaviour or quirk she has and looking for something to be wrong. I cant stop myself stressing and it's starting to interfere with my day to day, I find I cant enjoy just playing and being with her because I am so worried something is wrong or will be wrong.

Behaviour im worried about -
Constantly twists her hands/wrists when in highchair or having nappy changed.
Recently started clicking her tongue and doing this often.
She used to babble a lot but whilst shes still very vocal it's more hmm and mmm noises
She does give eye contact sometimes but other times seems to be looking through/passed me
Isn't waving or clapping yet

Positives -
Very social, enjoys peoples company and chases after other children at play groups
Started to point recently and does this often
Said Mama a couple of times and seemed to be in context
Crawling, cruising and standing unaided. Took one or two shaky steps but prefers crawling
Seems to understand simple things e.g. if I ask her where is bunny she gets her bunny toy

I dont know particularly what I'm worried about but I just feel like something isn't right and I'm making myself sick with worry

She sounds great! My children weren't as advanced at her age.

Obviously keep an eye on her given the background. But if you get anxious she will.

If you’re stressing to the point that you’re not enjoying being a Mum, I think you need to reach out and ask for some help from your GP or HV.

Are you in touch with any other Adopters? There is an Adoption Board on MN that you might find helpful. Just talking to other Mum’s who have adopted DC might help. But do reach out and get some support, they are little only once and it would be a shame not to ask for support of you’re letting worry overshadow enjoyment

Sounds like she's doing brilliant, especially with her gross motor. I think pointing is a great indicator of developing well too.

How are you tonight @FirstTimeAdoptiveMummy?

@SleafordSods better thank you, I've made a list of everything positive I've noticed and look at that when I'm getting anxious. Of course whatever happens I will love her no matter what, its just the unknown are driving me crazy

So glad you’re feeling a bit better already. Did you manage to find the Adoption Board?