At the last parents evening recently school mention how DD is extremely fidgety, unable to sit still and focus, is competent enough to get answers right, but doesn’t focus enough to fully understand the question and needs things re-explaining and help with concentration.
They said “we’re keeping in eye on this, we’re not quite concerned ‘yet’, but it is something we’re keeping an eye on in case we need to look further into it later”
I should have asked at the time but I’m not actually sure exactly what they meant. - she’s in year 1, and in reception they thought she may need to have additional support 1:1 due to her lack of concentration and focus, but after the summer holidays nothing else was mentioned and she’s not been taken out of class for 1:1 support since starting Y1.
Anyway, I’m assuming they might be questioning ADHD.. and to be fair I have too a couple times with her behaviour. She’s doesn’t really misbehave, obviously no child is absolutely perfect but she loves to help, she’s always looking for ways to help make someone else happy, very empathetic ect. But she’s just so away with the fairies, and she really doesn’t sit still ever. I can see how much she struggles to just sit still, even to the table for dinner she’s just fidgeting, gets up to stand next to the chair, then sits back down, turns around on the chair between mouthfuls, if she’s asked to sit still/nicely she ends up gripping onto the chair and wobbling it or just moving her body, kicking her feet, playing with her cutlery, food, moving side to side ect.
The tantrums over little things, and immediately after not being able to complete/do something are insane. She gets really frustrated really fast and ends up on the floor mad at herself or us whoever she’s blames and she’s so distracted, if I ask her to out her crisp packet in the bin 10 steps away.. she’ll find something that distracts her on the way, a mark in the floor, a sound from outside, something on the table she’s seen.. and then she’s forgotten about the bin and the crisp packet. It happens all months time with everything.
For a long time I thought it was just naughtiness, but we’ve had several chats together where she’s tells me she really wants to be good, and she wants to listen well but but brain doesn’t let her. That she wants to listen in school and get the work right but her brain distracts her.. I feel really bad for her because she gets very upset about being ‘told off’ in school, usually just to sit still or put something away ect.
it’s just got me wondering whether anyone can shed some light on how ADHD looks in other girls similar to her age who are now maybe older and have been diagnosed, what I should look for ect.