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Are you ever embarrassed by your children?

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niceglasses · 05/06/2008 19:14

Or is it just me?

Er, thats it really.

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southeastastra · 05/06/2008 19:17

of course, all the time.

Othersideofthechannel · 05/06/2008 19:18

Yes, when they crawl under tables in restaurants, council offices etc and ignore me when I ask them to stop (they are 5 and 3 so I probably am more embarassed than onlookers are put out but I can't help myself).

Othersideofthechannel · 05/06/2008 19:18

Really SEA, all the time?

southeastastra · 05/06/2008 19:19

well not all the time, he's just very loud

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niceglasses · 05/06/2008 19:20

I feel like all the time too - have just had nasty outing to dentist where I felt very under pressure. I have 3 - 7, 5 and 3, so it feels a bit like a box of frogs.

Am having bad parent moment.

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Othersideofthechannel · 05/06/2008 19:22

We go as a family to the dentist now. One adult to keep DCs from wreaking havoc while the other is in the chair.

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niceglasses · 05/06/2008 19:40

We were both there. Annoyingly Dh kept taking calls on his mobile and going outside. Grr. Just having a bad day maybe. One where everybody elses' kids are well behaved and polite.

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southeastastra · 05/06/2008 19:44

they're very young niceglasses, well done on getting out of the house with so many!

why were they so embarassing?

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niceglasses · 05/06/2008 19:46

Well, picking up all the bits and bobs and drinking the pink drink.....irresistible I suppose.

They get a sticker too, but although told to take just 1, ds1 - 7 - takes 3. It really annoys me. The dental nurse is telling them not to drink the pink stuff too.

I still find the 3 of them out en masse quite hard going.

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Dragonhart · 05/06/2008 19:49

Why is that always the case?! Whenever your kids are being little monsters everyone else seems to be preening at their lovely well behaved kids who are sitting still, not shouting singing the wheels on the bus at the top of their voice, happily watching as they que to pay for the food shop ect.

I get embarrased most when my ds1 does things that are normal for a 2yo but because he looks about 4, he gets really disaproving looks, esp from old ladies.

Dont worry though. We get our own back when they are teenagers and we can embarass them!!

MrsWeasley · 05/06/2008 19:50

I'm embarassed by my DD sometimes the sad thing is she is 13 and loves to make a scene in public

KarenThirl · 05/06/2008 19:53

I've got an Aspie - embarrassment goes with the territory, but you get over it after a while and don't much care what other people think.

KristinaM · 05/06/2008 19:57

yes of course. its in their job description. i am planning to be very embarassing when they are teenagers to get my own back

thebecster · 05/06/2008 19:59

Dragonhart, I have that problem with my tall 2 yr old as well - his behaviour is normal for his age, but he looks older so I get more disapproving mutterings!

He embarrassed me today when I picked him up from nursery. In retrospect my top was probably a teensy-weensy bit too low cut. But him pointing and shouting "Oh no! Mummy not enough top! Mummy naked! Mummy naked!" was in the extreme. Will wear a shirt under this top in future...

southeastastra · 05/06/2008 20:02

i suppose in a way you should be pleased, they sound like they had fun at the dentist! bet they won't be scared to go next time .

Smithagain · 05/06/2008 21:59

Yes sometimes by their behaviour - and by my tendency to shout like a fishwife before realising that everyone is listening

Also by DD1 who has just very solemnly informed her friend's mum that friend's birthday present was a really good one because mummy got it half price ...

LittleWonder · 05/06/2008 22:02

Mine are teens now, so I get to be the embarassing one -

Divastrop · 05/06/2008 22:08

ds2 has embarrassed me on many occasions,but the worst was when he wolf-whistled at some royal marines who were collecting for charity ouside tesco(he is 4.10 btw)

i am getting my own back on dd1(9) now though for all the shouting of rude words she did when she was 3,the announcement in the hairdressers that she had headlice when she was 4,and the telling of a packed bus in londons oxford street that her mummy had lots of boyfriends.

i ask her to give mummy a kiss when she goes into school,that always gets her

Meid · 05/06/2008 22:08

We were shopping the other day, DH was in the changing room trying on a suit while DD (7) and DS (2) were running around, pulling faces in the mirrors and crawling in and out of DH's changing room.

Two other children sat quietly on chairs. The one boy (aged about 3) said to his sister (aged about 7) "look at those children running around, aren't they naughty".

Now that was embarrassing, having other children pointing out that my kids were misbehaving.

mrshedge · 05/06/2008 23:00

ds likes silly words. He is part Indian but doesn't look it and picked up the words chapati and poppadom and added them to his repetoire of words to make himself laugh. Anyway we were in the post office queue surrounded by the PO staff who were all Indian and a couple of other men who were of Asian appearance too, when ds starts shouting poppadom, chapati.....not bad in itself as obviously this isn't offensive but it just seemed like he was taking the p*

Oh and this weekend he kept saying shit in front of my elderly gran. Luckily he misses the T off and I said he was saying ship but I don't think she was convinced.

chipmonkey · 05/06/2008 23:05

Ds1 used to mortify me! He would make really personal comments about people when he was 2-3 years old and he was really articulate and spoke so clearly that there was no mistaking what he had said. Whereas my others talked in toddlerspeak at that age and at least when they said rude things, I was the only one who understood.

Janni · 05/06/2008 23:32

DS1 is nearly 12. On Monday he sparked a police search by dumping his schoolbags and going walkabout. He didn't come home till 7 p.m.

Enjoy your little ones' noisiness and embarrassing little traits because there's nothing more hideous than spending ten hours wondering if you're ever going to see them again

chipmonkey · 05/06/2008 23:38

Oh, Janni, how frightening for you! You must have been climbing the walls!

Janni · 05/06/2008 23:48

Thanks Chipmonkey. I was at home with DD (3), a neighbour and lots of police in and out all day. I clung onto the fact that when he's left in the morning he was upset about not having his school shoes on - he'd lost them and had to wear trainers. It's a new school, he's got exams looming for the first time in his life - I could think of a rational explanation for him not going to school, although he's never done it before. Because of the bags though, there was a worry he'd been abducted..

My poor DH is the one who has quite literally been to hell and back. He was out scouring the streets, showing his picture to everyone and really feeling his son was dead or in terrible danger. He sobbed his heart out the next evening and cannot bear to hear me express any anger about what our son did.

We're getting back to normal, the school have been great and our son has got things more into perspective. We told him the consequences of what he'd done but tried to be a kind and reassuring as it's possible to be.

I thought a lot about Kate M'Cann that day..

Janni · 05/06/2008 23:50

Sorry - I really shouldn't be saying all that on this supposedly light-hearted thread!
I've just had the most surreal week and this is the first time I've sat down properly on mumsnet.

That's how surreal it's been

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