Constant crying at school by 3 year old

[delilah1]

I would be really grateful if anyone could offer any advice or direct me to existing discussion. My 3yr old twin DS cries with tears streaming down his face when he goes to nursery each day and has to be dragged from me(9-1 4 days a week). His twin sis skips happily along. He has been at pre-school since 2 and a bit and has always been a prob. We moved in Jan and so moved schools but did not change his behaviour. He is bright, articulate, can write and beginning to read etc so am not concerned about his ability. He is July birthday so will be starting Reception in Sep full time and has had a starter morning at school where as usual he sobbed. He sometimes stops when I leave but is upset and will cry at anything out of the ordinary eg school photo, or even a mildly worrying story. I have tried to be sympathetic, lots of reassurance, cuddles etc whilst doing same for DD, and have tried ignoring it, and now have decided to tell him this is unacceptable. His class is just 15 with 4 teachers - they are obviously irritated by him because he is perfectly competent in other areas. His sis attneds out of school classes but no one will take screaming child for ballet etc so have not pushed it. He has always been sensitive and frustrated but I dont want him hating school for ever. Will he grow out of it? Any ideas on how to manage it? Thanks

Poor you. It really wears you down leaving your child upset at nursery everyday. A couple of suggestions, don't know if they've already been tried. Can he take a special toy/object from home in with him? Or even something of yours. One child I know used to have a set of keys that he carried around that made him feel safe. Then, of course, there's all the manky muslins that get dragged around everywhere. Or how about asking another child to be his special friend ad gets to sit with him or play with him.

Is he the same if someone else takes him in? Could your other half or a friend try dropping him off or at leaset take him in the door.

He will settle, I'm sure. You'll have to spend the summer telling him what a 'grown-up boy' he is now that he is going into year 1. You may find that the new teacher and classroom is enough to stop the crying.