Isolated due to fussy 3.5 month old

[Dahliasings91]

Going mad please help!

My 3.5 month old doesn’t like the buggy. Doesn’t like the car seat. Is only content when held. Every journey anywhere is met with screaming.

I’m starting to feel isolated and avoid going anywhere unless it’s essential. I’ve had to see my GP because my mental health is tanking without being able to get out and about during the day. I’d love to go to groups etc like I did with my first.

Please someone give me some reassurance that this will improve or anything I have missed that doesn’t involve a sling / baby wearing!! I have an older toddler who I need to tend to. I don’t want to wear a sling / baby carry all day as my back is in bits as it is.

I didn’t have this issue with my eldest as he loved the buggy and slept there for all his naps.

This is relatively new and up until a few weeks ago was quite a chill baby.

If it was me id just put him in the buggy/car seat and let him scream and not react/ carry on as normal. He might not like being in the buggy or the car seat but he has to be. I think eventually he'd give up and accept that he has to be in there sometimes.

I'd probably offer something nice for those places, like a toy or a book but I would expect the first few times he would reject the toy/book and just scream.

I really feel you - I have a 4.5 month old and he’s been similar. Horrendous in the car and I stopped taking the buggy out as a waste of time trying him in it. I have to admit I’ve taken a very different approach to the previous poster as really don’t agree with subjecting anyone to hysterical and distressed babies.

ive spent the last 4 months with mine in the sling, little journeys stopping to feed or reassure when needed which means allowing a lot of time! I have a toddler and it’s been hard, lots of nursery rhymes etc
keep them close, they have been part of you for 9 months and don’t really understand why they’re alone and are probably pretty scared / overwhelmed by the world.

I found white noise helped and for a while I planned car journeys where possible when he was already asleep. However now 4.5 months old he happily goes in the pram and we can do 10-20minutes in the car awake before kicking off. Give it time, look after yourself - its all a phase

How far away are the groups that you want to go to?

Most things are within a 15 minute walking distance but aside from this, I struggle to get my eldest to nursery. I struggle to walk to the station or even to the supermarket to pick up a few bits it’s just so overwhelming

Thank you! Did he take to it lying down or did you put the seat up? A few people have said when they’re more upright they prefer it.