Hoping someone can offer some advice please.
I think my DS has PDA but possibly only displaying it at home.
He is in year 1 and from what I understand is very good at school, a little bit cheeky at times but nothing most of the other boys his age are like. He’s learning very well and has a lot of friends. He seems to thrive at school.
At home….god, it’s another story.
The only way I can put it is that I think he is unable to (and always has been) to accept authority from me and his dad. He seems to resent us for having authority, which he knows is there but he despises us for it. He acts like we are in existence purely to serve what he wants at that very moment in time, and if we dare spend time doing something that isn’t fully involving him, e.g. putting a wash out or having a shower, we are doing him an awful disservice. He acts like a spoilt brat to be honest. I know people will say that it is because we’ve let stuff go and he’s become this way as a result of us, but in this instance I don’t think that’s the case at all. We have been on at him his whole life to try and improve his attitude towards us, encourage him to speak in a nicer tone, to be more polite and charming.
He has a younger sister who is 2. I feel he has some kind of wall up with her as well. He is at times good with her and they enjoy each others company and always gravitate to each other, but I feel he is deeply jealous of her. He seems to be unable to accept her fully.
We have shown deep love and affection to DS his whole life, and he is at times amazing company, charming and sweet, but 90% of the time he is a moaning, awkward and extremely needy individual. He is a very uptight proud character and DH and I just hope and pray things will improve with age. I want nothing more than a wonderful relationship with him, but I do question if he is displaying PDA. At time I have wondered if it’s ADHD as well. I feel he is just too difficult. Anyone have any experience of this I’d be really keen to know.