11 month old throwing head back, screaming and thrashing

[SecretSloth99]

We are going through a super tough phase with my (almost) 11 month old. I don’t know if it’s teeth, developmental, pain, no clue.

She is frequently very upset, doesn’t want cuddles or be held but equally doesn’t want to be set down on the floor. She will throw her head back, cry, scream and arch her back, forcefully pushing away from us when we are holding her. Other times, she is perfectly happy and smiley. Same issue when I try and put her down for naps and bedtime, thrashing around in her cot, sitting up and throwing her head back forcefully, banging her head into the cot bars. Husband seems to be able to settle her much more easily.

She does have a cold (has done for a couple of weeks), and I thought I could see top teeth starting to come down so maybe it’s that.

Just searching for similar experiences as my brain is telling me she’s in a huge amount of pain and there is something serious going on but my husband thinks it’s normal behaviour. She is our first. I’ve got myself into a vicious cycle of worrying that it will never end and it’s breaking my heart that nothing I do seems to help her.

Any thoughts and / or reassurance from the mum hive mind are hugely appreciated

Your DH’s point of view is interesting. What qualifications does he have in childcare out of interest?

I mean, none but respectfully I’m not looking for opinions or thoughts on what my husband thinks. I have a history of being overly anxious so he’s my balance in situations like this. For extra context, doctors have seen her and assessed as a generally well baby as she eats, she has her milk, good nappies etc but I worry if there is something deeper going on.

I’m looking for if others have gone through this same issue.

I think the point I was trying to make is that sometimes DH’s can speak with seeming authority on our DC proclaiming that every is ok when actually they often have no experience of other DC.

How long has she been like this for? Is it jist whilst she’s been feeling poorly or has it been going on longer than that?

What’s your gut feeling?

If it’s any consolation, my DS has just turned 10 months. And it’s like a switch has flicked and his personality has drastically changed. Lots of crying, unsettleness, resisting everything… really quite dramatic and exhausting. I like you (FTM also) was in a panic…. But after reading a lot on here, it seems like a peak age for this kind of thing. All his needs are being met, his health is fine, I believe it’s a developmental thing and frustration. I find with him it’s like he doesn’t know what he wants and is constantly angry about everything.

my advice would be keep her topped up with pain relief, (calpol, nurofen) to cover the teething/cold element and then just ride it out. It’s exhausting but hopefully it’ll pass. 💕