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Mummysince2021 · 10/10/2025 01:10

I am a mum of three I have never posted on here before but I really do need help I feel like a really shit mum right now I am struggling to cope I have a 4 year who is in school and her attitude is unbelievable she tell me I don't love her I don't care for her she doesn't want to live with me anymore and she also has never slept in her own bed I have a three year old who still has a dummy and is in nappies and just screams all day and only eats fruit and I have a 4 month old who will only co sleep I have zero time to myself I feel like everything I am doing is wrong I can't cope when I try and talk to family I feel like they just brush me off I just want to scream or disappear I can't sleep my house work doesn't get done I feel like I am just chasing my own tail I don't want to get out of bed and my partner i am starting to really despise him because I feel like he still gets to be himself but all I am is mum

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BunnyRuddington · 10/10/2025 07:18

I’m not surprised that you don’t want to get out of bed @Mummysince2021, you have so much going on Flowers

Shall we start with your eldest DD. What she’s saud is very hurtful but sometimes they say these things to get a reaction. One thing you could say is “I’m sorry you feel that way but I love you every minute of every day” and smile. Tou might find that if she’s not getting a reaction from you, she may stop saying negative things. How is she behaving in school? Do they have any concerns?

Never sleeping in her own room is hard on you. Where does she sleep now and who deals with any wake-ups?

When you say DC2 only eats fruit and screams all day, do they talk at all? How do they do on this very simple and quick progress checker?

And I think it’s pretty normal for you to start to resent your DP for having some normality out of the house. Is DC2 in Nursery? Is going back to work, even if it’s part-time an option for you?

Does your DP pull his weight around the house and either the DC?

And have you spoken to your GP and HV about how down you’re feeling? Flowers

BunnyRuddington · 10/10/2025 17:17

How are you now @Mummysince2021?

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