On Friday night ds (7) had a nasty accident on his bike. It was all very scary -his face is pretty battered and he had to have an anaesthetic for them to set his wrist and we were all pretty stressed out. The timings of it all meant two very late nights and early mornings for dd (12). Ds is fine now, charging about as if nothing had happened, managing his cast fine and relentlessly cheerful. Dp, who witnessed the accident and had to do the going to hospital and staying the night bit is recovering (only occasionally bursts into tears, and only asks me once an hour if I think it was his fault).
Dd, on the other hand is being a total pain in the neck - stroppy, moody, weepy - not like her at all. I am making lots of allowances - she's tired, she and ds adore each other so she's worried about him, and she was absolutely brilliant at the time so this is partly reaction to being so grown up them. I also think she's jealous of all the attention ds is getting, then feeling horrible because she's ashamed of feeling jealous - if you see what I mean.
How long do I go on letting her get away with behaviour that I wouldn't usually tolerate? I've tried to talk to her about how she feels, but she just shouts at me! Any ideas/advice?