J (9) has Asperger's so we have a VERY strict after-school routine!
He finishes his packed lunch in the car on the way home from school. Has about 20 mins chill-down time when we get in - he needs this to get rid of school anxieties. He might play in his room, Lego or comics or play on the computer.
I'm teaching him about time management so next I'll guide him to his job chart and get him to work through his jobs - guitar practice, dot-to-dot (to improve handwriting), any homework he might have. Set the table then he can play while I cook tea.
Tea takes ages - he doesn't like eating so I have to sit with him and encourage him to eat. That's when we talk through whatever else will happen before bedtime, so he knows what to expect.
Some evenings we'll do relaxation exercises. Thursdays he has swimming lesson, Friday's piano. Sometimes on Mondays we go swimming together - that helps him to chill-down too. Once a month he goes to an autism social skills group.
He's just started a Dr Who obsession so to prevent it taking over all our lives he has it scheduled for 6pm. He can watch an episode or play on the DW website, read or whatever.
7pm he has a shower, gets ready for bed, school uniform out.
After that we read together, play social skills games or discuss anything that might have bothered him during the day. Then he reads till lights out at 8pm.
Sorry, that was a bit longwinded, wasn't it?!