My child is the ‘annoying one’

[bells987]

Hi all,

my daughter (4yrs) has recently started in reception. At drop offs and pick ups, she is constantly shouting other children’s names across the road, shouting after them, trying to run off to them.
when coming out of school, she is trying to hold their hands, again shouting them constantly. This obviously isn’t always reciprocated by other children, with others often reaching for their parents or outright saying “no”. Sometimes she really tries to ‘get in their face’, repeating the same sentence like “look at my sister look at my sister!!”. The other children clearly couldn’t give a f* about her sister but my daughter just doesn’t read that.
I have tried to have conversations with her about personal space, asking people kindly before doing something but it’s just really not sinking in. I just know it’s going to start irritating others and pushing new friendships away.
she can be 100mph with chatting at home too, jumping from subject to subject and can be quite ‘full on’. She’s able to focus on tasks/games relatively well which is the only stopper for me looking into anything further atm.

does anybody have any advice?

I'd suggest as a start off you hold her hand. That will stop her running off and getting in their faces. And try talking to her and asking her about her day - distraction technique really.

And also do role play at home. Give her some nice safe things to say "I like your coat", "Have you got a dog?" and help her to understand that sometimes others don't want to play/answer/do what she wants and it's not a rejection of her, but how they're feeling.

Sympathies. I’ve got a socially inept 4 year old that’s just started school as well. It’s very stressful. However, I think most of them at this age have their foibles. We’ve been to 4 class parties ( already!) and there’s a whole variety of undesirable behaviours going on. Over familiarity and being a bit annoying is definitely not the worst!

Honestly, this sounds kind of normal to me. A kid in my kids class was doing this and grew out of it. Mine did it sometimes.

Think about your kid and others in this situation - try not to give a c* what parents think. Can she ride a bike instead so she'll be busy. I agree try distractions.