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ND and nursery

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Springett4 · 25/09/2025 12:51

My son (27 months) has been in nursery for nearly a year. I left work when I had him as I wanted to be with him full time but from the age of about 1 his development slowed right down and he went from being an early roller/sitter/crawler/walker to showing little interest in speaking. He remains very physically capable and coordinated but doesn’t have any language skills. His behaviour also took a real nosedive around the birth of my second baby around 6 months ago and he bites, hits, screams on a daily basis. Nursery called me in to flag their concerns with these issues and suggested taking him to private SALT, which he has been doing weekly for about 6 months. Since then the nursery leaders have gone virtually radio silent on me, I can’t get any updates on progress and they take weeks to respond to emails and return calls when I’ve been worried about incidents during his sessions. When I pick up there are often reports of bad behaviour and it’s usually quite hostile. He is often left alone to play and in photo updates I’ve seen that he’s in a pram while the other children are able to explore and run around, or not with the other children at all. He is very fond of his key worker and biting and hitting incidents rarely happen when she is there but he is showing no signs of improving his social skills and is very upset at every drop off. I’m not sure whether it’s better to keep him “in the system” as I imagine we’re likely to require additional support for neurodivergence in due course, or to pull him out. I don’t have any concerns about his safety at nursery but do feel that he’s disliked and treated as a nuisance by the staff in generally. I’m in the process of seeking help for postnatal depression, which I suspect I’ve been experiencing since his birth, and know that I can be overly defensive about him but I wondered if any other ND parents had experience of changing/ leaving nursery and could advise on whether it’s ever useful?

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Fmlgirl · 09/10/2025 21:33

OP I have nothing much helpful to say but I feel so bad for them leaving him in a pram. That alone would either make me pull him out or have a look around for a different setting where he can get more support.

BunnyRuddington · 10/10/2025 06:58

@Springett4well done for reaching out and getting some support for your PNI. That is a huge step Flowers

If you want to keep him there as evidence towards referral has he been referral yet for an assessment? If not, are you due to see your HV again anytime soon to review him?

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