How to cope......
I am a single parent to a 10 year old boy and 12 year old girl. Their relationship with their father is strained at best, and in effect, I am the sole parent for 98% of their lives.
DD has been beyond difficult to live with this last year. I don't know how much of that to put down to age or environment. We have had it tough for the last couple of years and I have tried to take that into account.
She shouts at me, she pulls faces, when she's not doing that she ignores me completely. She shouts at her brother, causes arguments. Today she messaged me to say she was somewhere I have never allowed her to go to. Didn't ask, just went. I am borderline losing my shit with it for a better way to put it. I am sick and tired of having the same conversation over and over again about my boundaries for respect, and asking me if she needs me to do anything differently to meet her needs. We talk, we agree, nothing changes. Last week, I'm sad to say I hit her. I cried all night that I lost control but if I'm honest with myself, I can't cope with her. I work full time, run either her or her brother to a club, come back do tea, clean house go to bed for the next day to be identical.
I don't know how to make progress, but I know this cannot continue.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated