Will I mess up DS1's sleep if new baby's in his room? Should I move him to a big bed? HELP!

[henrys7thwife]

I am due this fall with my second. I have a son, 23 months, who sleeps in a cot at the minute. He doesn't try to climb out, is very happy in it, and would probably sleep in there until he was about 3 if I'd let him. When is the right time to move him, and should I put a baby gate across his door? Our room is one floor up, and his room is on the first floor so there are 2 sets of stairs we REALLY don't want to put safety gates on.

Second issue: When baby comes, we are thinking of putting it in my son's room. Will this totally mess up his sleep? Will have a maternity nurse the first few months, and baby won't go in there until it's about 3 months old (and hopefully close to sleeping through the night). My son sleeps about 7 pm - 5.30/6 am (whatever we do he WONT ever sleep 7-7, any idea why? tried blackout blinds, shortening daytime sleep, tiring him out more, nothing works!)

Thanks for your replies in advance!

I wouldn't put the baby in with your son until he/she is sleeping through the night otherwise you will have them both awake at 4am

if the baby is sleeping in your room for the first 6 months in a moses basket ten your ds has a while longer in the cot

agree with posieflump

Ds2 slept in the same room as his brother from the day he was born. Tbh he was comatose going down at night so didn't disturb his brother until he was 6 weeks and his sleep patterns changed. Ds1 learnt to ignore it after 3 days or so.
Ds2 has never disturbed ds1 in the night. He's too well programmed to sleep.
Ds1 wakes ds2 in the morning if he gets up early (ie before 7), but will sleep through ds2's crying when ds2 wakes at 7.

My ds's are 15 months apart, no 1 in bed at 18 months no 2 in cot in same room at 4 months, no probs at all with either of them both now 3 and 4 in bunk beds sometimes even in same bed together! No 2 did not sleep through night either was waking early morn but did not disturb no 1.

As for getting longer sleep, I just put them back to bed and say its too early, be persistent, they now sleep 12/13 hours.

Good luck!

We have the gate (or gates now, DS is a climber).

Put them in the same room from about 6 months (when he was too big for his crib). He still doesn't sleep through much now, but never disturbs DD.

She is an "off switch" kind of child though - once she is asleep, that is it til morning when she is VERY awake again.