Losing my mind

[ThatLilacTurtle]

My 7 year old is being so nasty. We have had issues with her for around 2 years but these last few weeks have just been horrendous. She back chats, swears, hits, screams. Seems to be worse towards me than with her Dad.
I thought about ADHD but she doesn't show any signs at school, she is a dream whilst there.
Just don't know what to do anymore

That does sound really difficult @ThatLilacTurtle

Usually long before this age most DC will have realised that hitting isn’t socially acceptable. I take it that regular discipline techniques just don’t work?

Do you have any other concerns about about her?

Just how evil she seems to be towards me in general. She likes things a certain way too. Like this morning, with her breakfast, she asked if there was sugar on ( we only put the tiniest amount ) and because her dad had stirred it in she flew off the handle and refused to eat it.

It does sound as though she’s really struggling and is taking it out on you. Try and think of it as that rather than being evil.

If she’s a dream at school, have you heard of “masking”?

And there is honestly no other issues? She doesn’t suffer with anxiety, stomach issues? No fussy eating? Goes to sleep easily and doesn’t have problems making and keeping friends?

I think this progress checker might be a good place to see if she needs any support.

Have you read The Explosive Child too? That might help with managing her outbursts

They absolutely love her at school. She has loads of friends too.
I will look at the links. Thank you

My DD was very much like that at school but was masking and would have severe meltdowns at home.