Some issues with dc how to get assistance?

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We think there are some behavioural/developmental issues with our eldest.

Really don't want to go into details on here but would appreciate advice as to what the next step is?

No health visitor and dc is too old (6+) I think anyway.

GP is particularly good at brushing off all requests for anything.

I mentioned concerns earlier in year to someone they said don't worry if school have concerns they will tell you, school have said nothing not just nothing about this they have just said nothing about anything really, they did mention some issues but weren't interested in saying anything else more interested in talking about the ORT book they say he lost (he didn't)

We have hospital visit later in year would that be an appropriate time/place?

if the school and gp are not too worride are you sure that you are not reading too much into his problems?

if not you need to push for the gps referral

hv's are supposto work with the families when the children are any age, not until 5 so you could try them (speaking as a student paeds nurse). The school should refer if they think there are problems, they should tell you and normally do. It really does depend on what your concerns are though as to who he needs to see IYSWIM.

Havn't been to GP for about 18 months!

We're still trying to get pre-school boosters about 10 months too late

School kind of said concerns about somethings but like I said just wanted to talk about ORT

Could be micci25 but I think there are enought things that are isues for us to at least need to discuss, it's just like I said GP is such a wall we've even been struggling to get a repeat prescription for ventolin out of them!

couldnt you try changing gp's or ask to see a different doctor at your surgery?

it took me two years to get referred about dd1s eating, even though every health professional i saw thought that she was underwieght, but after much fighting and contstant appointments regarding her weight/eating i got seen to!

all you can do is keep trying

yeah you're right I need to push a bit we've let this drift for quite a while now and I don't want to 'miss the boat'

think GP it will be

night

I disagree with your GP saying not to worry if school is saying nothing. Schools don't always know what to look for in behaviour and development problems. My son had a lot of problems before starting school, which I raised with staff before he entered, but they didn't raise any major concerns themselves until he was halfway through Y1 and that was at my repeated insistence that there were sigificant problems going on. Eventually, at the end of Y2, he was diagnosed with Asperger's but the school had so little awareness of autism that they hadn't recognised it and had just thought he was naughty and he'd 'grow out of it'. Although schools often do refer on a parent's behalf this won't happen if they're inexperienced and/or too lazy, as they may not see the need for outside intervention. Sometimes you have to do it yourself, especially if (as in our case) your child responds well to school structure and routine so most of his issues present at home rather than in the classroom.

Mind you, we still didn't get any help from school even after dx but that's another story...

Incidentally, I sought referrals to the child development team via my health visitor long after he'd started school, so I'd try yours and see if they're willing to help. They can only say no. Otherwise I'd be looking for a more supportive GP rather than one who just brushes you off because he can't be bothered to write a referral.