Hello, I need some advice on deal with my son who is hitting. He is 5 years old and started school this week. The past 2 years at nursery, almost daily he was biting, hitting and throwing objects and other children and staff. It got so bad a transitioned him to school 3 months early as I didn't want any other kids being hurt. This was great and there was no incidents at this time, he made friends at school, not one issue of any agressive behaviour. So fast forward to this week he has had 2 incidents on hitting his friends at school. The hitting has been over sharing although I feel this may be leading to the way he was at nursery if it keeps continuing.
We have a star chart in place which I'm consistent with, he doesn't get the 4 Ts if he hurts someone (tablet, treats, television or trampoline) and we talk it out why he did it, how he felt etc. I have been doing this consistently for over 1.5 years and it isn't working. When I speak to him he is always apologetic and says he won't hurt anyone ever again.
He is getting assessed for autism although he doesn't show these behaviours outside school/nursery so I don't understand why he is doing it inside. He does get over whelmed very easy although the older he is getting he is dealing with it better. There is also things in place to prevent this although I understand the teachers can't be there all the time.
He has friends who run up to him in the playground, he has play dates, gets invited to parties. Other wise from this hitting he is a funny, caring little boy who makes friends and keeps friends.
The school have been great this week intervening and letting me know. He has even told me the teacher has "gave him rows".
ANY ADVICE would be so helpful as I feel I can't do anymore and I don't want the issues from nursery spilling over into school.
Thank you so much for reading!