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Blended family help

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Mumma223 · 06/08/2025 06:25

So my partner has a daughter from a previous relationship whose nearly 9 and we have a daughter together whose nearly 4. We would like to move in together but the trouble we are having is the two girls do not get on. The older one will tell younger one she hates her, she had enough of her etc which then causes younger one to cry. Younger one then starts being horrible back. They have both been brought up differently as we have different parenting styles. I would say I'm more strict and hot on manners who goes out for the day and dad is very laid back, let's his daughter watch ipad whenever she wants and would happily stay in all day. I've looked after both girls for a few days and taken them both out but after few hours together it's like ww3. Any ideas how we can make this work so we can eventually move in together

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BunnyRuddington · 06/08/2025 07:22

I think I would delay moving in together. Not because of the girls don’t get on but because your parenting styles are completely different.

What does he do for instance when his DD tells your DD that she hates her?

Mumma223 · 06/08/2025 08:39

He does speak to her and explain it's not kind but then sometimes gets cross and tells her she will have to go and live with her mum which i said is completely out of order. I have more of an approach of saying its not kind and how would she feel if the younger one said that to her. I just dont know how we will compromise when we live completely different life styles

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BunnyRuddington · 06/08/2025 15:06

I honestly don’t think I could live with anybody who parents like this. Once you do live together you’ll have to put up with his behaviour every day. I honestly don’t think you’re that compatible.

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