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DS 11, defiance and rage

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wildlingtribe · 01/08/2025 21:28

Pre-teen hormones? He is such a calm and lovely boy. But as soon as he loses his temper (usually due to screen time limit or not being allowed on a game or the fifa itself glitching) he absolutely goes berserk. Toddler tantrum and rude mouth, mocking me, defiance, name-calling, not listening to simple words like ‘no’ or ‘stop’.
I feel so ill-equipped. He starts talking to me so badly like I don’t recognise my little lad anymore. i will touch his arm to say calm down and he will say “oh child abuse!” As a joke. he then goes into remorse mode. And apologetic. This evening we are currently on one hour of misbehaviour. I tried the simple - go to your room. But the defiance is relentless. Younger siblings got worried too.
I feel like I get walked over at times, I have boundaries that are listened to at times but others, I feel like they’re just stomped on.
I’ve taken the screen time away for the foreseeable, so this made it worse, but he has been out of control this evening. My heart is racing from stress. He also then starts mentioning other hurtful things. For reaction?

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BunnyRuddington · 02/08/2025 14:32

How are things today @wildlingtribe? Flowers

wildlingtribe · 02/08/2025 22:00

Thank you. Today we had a good chat. First thing he did when he woke up was come to apologise. We then spoke about feelings are allowed but never rudeness and disrespect. Today there’s been no games console, I want him to know it’s not an everyday request or entitlement, just because it seems to be for his friends. It’s hard because I know we’re parents first, but I don’t want our relationship to be fractured by me keep saying no to something. He will ask each day, and I don’t want it to be seen as a punishment as such, just the fact it’s not an everyday thing!!! An expectation! Thank you for asking.

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