Concerns over my 10 week old baby

[BlueSky30]

Hi everyone,
I'm a FTM to a 10 week old boy and I am very worried about some of his behaviours. He only smiles, coos and makes some eye contact when lying down (for example when in his bed, when changing him, or when we play with him). When we hold him he looks everywhere but us, has a grumpy/sad face and doesn't smile or engage at all. Even when I try and sit him on my knees facing me, he avoids eye contact, doesn't smile or coo. He hates tummy time, but we are trying our best to do some during the day as we have noticed his neck is still a bit floppy. When we hold him up right he doesn't control his neck that well but other times he does - it's like he forgets how to do it? It's really difficult to describe. I have also noticed that he gets stiff when we hold him and then eventually he relaxes. I went to the gp a couple of days ago due to this breathing (as he has laryngomalacia and I thought he was grunting when excited and upset), she said he has a bit of redness on his throat. So I've mentioned some of this behaviours to her and she dismissed them: he is too young to have control of his neck (although I said I have seen a 11 week old baby holding his neck very well), the grumpy/ sad face and lack of eye contact when we hold him up right - to what she said 'do you like being held all the time?'. She basically said that he is a normal baby, she is not concerned about his muscle tone and he engaged with her when she was checking on him (which I pointed out that he was lying down).
Has anyone gone through this before with your babies? I am so worried and I feel like no one is listening to me ! Even my husband thinks he is perfect and because he does some of those things when lying down then it is ok. I am worried as I don't think this is a normal behaviour at all.
Can anyone share your thoughts please?
Thank you so much x

Going only by your post, your baby indeed sounds 100% utterly, perfectly normal at only 10 weeks. Except for the sore throat, nothing here sounds like a health issue… just a normal newborn! Head control isn’t usually perfected until between 3-4 months so your little one is doing great if they’re achieving it sometimes already at 10 weeks. My DS is 6 months and is only just now starting to not hate tummy time, since he can now roll both ways and pivot. All my friends’ babies are the same! And plenty of babies aren’t big on eye contact and smiling… that’s why things like ASD aren’t diagnosable until later — there is too much normal variation in infant social communication milestones. So don't worry right now and try and enjoy your little one because they’ll probably be cooing and squealing and scooting around all over the place before you know it 🙏🏻🩷

This sounds exactly like my baby boy apart from the sore throat.

He hated tummy time, I had to prop his chest up on something and shake some toys in front of him when he was 10 weeks old. I would let him get frustrated, but not to the point of crying. He's now over 20 weeks and loves to roll onto his tummy, he can look around and see so many different things.
You can try putting him across your lap on his tummy, or have him lie chest to chest on you/dad, it all counts as tummy time. Or even try the tiger hold (Google it) for different stimulation.

Also snap with the eye contact, always smiling, happy on his back on the floor, but no smiles or noises when upright, again my boy is so much better now, one of his favourite things to do is to be held and for us to both look in the mirror. He looks at himself in the mirror, smiles then looks at me in the mirror and smiles, then checks I'm still holding him, super cute!

Things will get so much better, just keep practicing tummy time.