Hey everyone, I would love some advice and guidance :)
some background info
ADHD/ASD has always came with challenges. I would say the most challenging years for him were from age 6-8. The meltdowns came in the from of completely wrecking the house. Throwing things, breaking things, hitting kicking and biting us all while he would hysterically laugh before he folding and crying his wee eyes out.
I thought that time was difficult but now he’s older and starting puberty the behaviour comes across extremely rude, disrespectful and downright mean 😢 I know his behaviour comes from dysregulation most of the time but I don’t want to go the wrong way about it. I want him to know its absolutely ok to feel those big emotions but I can’t allow him to continue to be nasty to us every time he feels a certain way.
for example… he doesn’t cope well when we make plans to do something. He becomes overwhelmed at the thought of it and becomes soooo rude and says unkind things.
i have also noticed in day to day life, particularly towards me, he’s became very negative about everything I do. Every single meal I make he has to say something about it that’s negative? I mostly ignore it. He also told me he thought I was ‘not very smart like him’ because I’m not good with maths lol I told him that was a pretty rude comment to make and everyone is different. Some people are bad with maths but good with other subjects etc.
i know I shouldn’t take it personally but when it’s everyday all day long it really starts to have an impact.
just wondering if anyone is going through the same thing and can offer some advice that has worked for them?
thank you :)