Going on holiday soon. Wants out of the pram but wants to be carried. How to resolve?

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DD is 20 months old. V determined little thing is she. Our problem is going on holiday in less than 3 weeks. Will go in pram for v short periods but then wants out = will walk a little bit then uppie which is fine for a while but when you set her down she just takes off wherever she wants to go or says `uppie'. Is started to make my back v sore all this lifting and carrying. How do we resolve this. Also has a mummy thing going on at moment, she must says it about 500 times a day and 9 out of 10 times wants mummy to do everything. Also has been waking up at 6 a.m. instead of usual 7.30 aagh! Is it because it's light = black out blind? and starting to rebel with daytime nap. Is this all a phase.... separation anxiety maybe. Any thoughts appreciated.

Re the carrying - have you got some kind of sling or carrier? Might make things easier when you do need to carry her for short periods.

I recently took the decision to stop carrying DD daughter altogether. She's nine months older than yours though. I told her I can give her a cuddle or hold her hand but she has to be in the buggy or walk. It's worked really well. (DH still carries her at times though). I had to do it because of pains in my arm from all the lifting.

A hipseat might work for you?

I was going to suggest a sling too - something like a ring sling that's easy to use and you can just shove it in a bag when not in use.

she sounds great. reins or wrist strap, even as a threat? back carrier. 2 hours running around outdoors every day.

stop nap and maybe she'll sleep more at night (never happened with ds though)

sling or hip seat might help for pram thing.
the mummy thing happens here too-daddy is ds2 hero but mummy must do ten things at once and take him to loo at same time
back out blinds may help-never tried them.or if your dd is safe etc id encourage quite reading/play in cot .

I'd recommend the hippychick (hipseat), it's brilliant - my dd is 2.3 and I haven't used a buggy now for months. She's getting quite heavy but with the hippychick thing I can carry her comfortably for quite a long way! And it's easy up and down - she's terrible for wanting down when she's up and vice versa too. Best of luck. Sorry though, can't help with your other queries, I'm looking for answers to the same problems myself

We had the same at the same age without the running off though - just wanted to be carried all the time.

We made walking seem like fun - so we'd say ooh can you walk to the next corner.....ooh there's a (interesting thing to look at) at the next corner etc. - very tiresome but it worked slowly but surely. We started expecting him to walk short distances and then it quickly improved from there. Within a couple of weeks he was walking for a long time and we ditched the pram forever at about your dd's age.

It was just before a holiday and was lovely not to take it!

Second what others have said that a Hipseat could be good back up as long as she isn't going to want to go on it all the time.

My main message is they can be encouraged to walk more and do without a pram at this age and with our ds it was well worth the hassle of a couple of weeks of working on it to get rid of the pram early!

thanks for the messages. I might just try one of these sling things or the back carrier might come in useful when at home. They might be good for holidays! DD1 was the same at this age only her uppie was carry the whole way round Blackpool. Am getting used to the mummy all day (DD1 did this too but daddy gets quite annoyed)so this time we don't give in as much with it. Am reluctant to give up day nap but she's getting older and wiser now to it and doesn't like being taken to her cot.

I really recommend protecting your back!!!! I'm heavily PG and have this with DD at the mo who is 17 months. Well, put it this way - I don't but DH does. I basically give her the choice of walk or buggy and that is non negotiable. I will not carry her. She is fine with this with me on my own and ends up being mainly in the buggy. When DH is around however, he ends up carrying her for miles and she has a strop when he tries to put her in the buggy and he gives in immediately.

I propose that you make a decision about whether or not you're prepared to carry her and if not, don't. Explain calmly what her options are and give her the final choice or walk or buggy. She will be perfectly happy.