worrying changes in behavior (quite long)

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Hi, new mumsnetter so please be gentle

Earlier this year ds teacher noted a change in behavior, bouts of 'sillyness' when he didn't known the answer ect., but didn't seem too concerned. He's always had a strong personality but was fun to be around. Lately at home though he has become a different child. Can turn agressive towards me and sometimes even violent over practically nothing. He is quick to tears and very whiney, sometimes gets a bit hysterical and is crying and laughing at the same time. Bedtime is a particular problem - goes to bed and is well behaved for story ect. but when I try to leave the room will try anything to make me stay or come back including throwing things at me. He also refuses to do homework which is mostly reading given list of words, he does do his reading book but I sometimes think he has memorised it at school rather than reading it.

Any ideas on the kind of thing that could cause a change like this or how to handle it?

How old is he? Has there been any chang in his life lately, ie new baby, moving house, change of class...?

Has he had an eye test recently/ever? I behaved liek this at school when I was needing glasses & got bored because I couldn't see the blackboard !!! (showing age here !!!)

Now I know they work with whiteboards etc & more individual work but the same COULD apply?

Worth a check maybe?

Hope it gets sorted-how worrying for you.

Your ds certainly sounds as if he is under some kind of stress, hence not wanting you to go at bedtime - needs you around for reassurance/to feel secure.

Is he perhaps aware that he is finding things difficult? He couldn't be dyslexic? (If you think he is only memorising his reading book) or is the social side of school OK? He's not being bullied is he? Is he happy enough to go to school in the mornings?

I think a chat with his class teacher, asking these questions, might throw some light.