5 year old with behavioural issues ? Autism/ ADHD

[BubsysMum123]

Just hoping for some reassurance and support and hopefully some advice.
my almost 5 y old son has been having lots of behavioural issues at school / home/ camp
issues are
finds transitioning between tasks very difficult , gets very upset , doesn't like to stop doing things , hyper focused
poor attention when not interested
poor emotional regulation
doesn't sit still
always touching things
doesn't LISTEN when told to stop .. constantly calling his name
real problem with TV addiction.. esp Minecraft .. wish I d never let him watch it
finds it hard to get to sleep , once asleep ok
Recently wetting himself ( usually when v engaged in something), he was potty trained by 3 but couple of m ago restarted having accidents( no obvious medical cause )
wont dress himself ( though does at school)
always messing up furniture , jumping on bed, sofa .. used to be house proud but given up!

he's been referred for autism/ adhd assessment .

he has good verbal skills , early talker , bright, has friends.

any tips about how to help behaviour ?
I know giving him warning 5 m beforehand , giving options .. any thing that worked for you?

also would love some reassurance that things will get better. Anyone's child had this and improved? He was fine till age 4.. then things got worse.. everything is getting worse.. really need some reassurance ...

thanks

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BubsysMum123 · Today 07:40
Just hoping for some reassurance and support and hopefully some advice.
my almost 5 y old son has been having lots of behavioural issues at school / home/ camp
issues are
finds transitioning between tasks very difficult , gets very upset , doesn't like to stop doing things , hyper focused
poor attention when not interested
poor emotional regulation
doesn't sit still
always touching things
doesn't LISTEN when told to stop .. constantly calling his name
real problem with TV addiction.. esp Minecraft .. wish I d never let him watch it
finds it hard to get to sleep , once asleep ok
Recently wetting himself ( usually when v engaged in something), he was potty trained by 3 but couple of m ago restarted having accidents( no obvious medical cause )
wont dress himself ( though does at school)
always messing up furniture , jumping on bed, sofa .. used to be house proud but given up!
he's been referred for autism/ adhd assessment .
he has good verbal skills , early talker , bright, has friends.
any tips about how to help behaviour ?
I know giving him warning 5 m beforehand , giving options .. any thing that worked for you?
also would love some reassurance that things will get better. Anyone's child had this and improved? He was fine till age 4.. then things got worse.. everything is getting worse.. really need some reassurance ...
thanks

I would lean into the can't sit still and always touching things – things like a wobble cushion or kick bands for a chair, or let him sit on a suitably-sized exercise ball at home. Does he have fidget toys for the always touching? What sort of motion does he seem to really like or find calming – bouncing, swinging, crashing into sofa cushions? I'd try to build it regular bits of that however you can.

If he's getting his needs for motion and touch met, he'll hopefully find it easier to stay regulated, and if he's not using as much of his coping capacity on 'must not touch that, must not touch that, must sit still, must sit still', hopefully he'll have more capacity to cope with transitions or emotions.

Thank you.