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21 month saying no to coming home! MIL infuriating 🙂

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lillygxx · 03/07/2025 19:00

Our dd goes to her grandparents (my in laws) at least once a week for a long day whilst we work, and I know she has a great time & they adore her. However over the last few weeks my MIL has been making a point every time she brings her home of telling me that when she asks ‘shall we go home to mummy & daddy?’ my dd says no 🥲 repeatedly. She’s laughing as she finds it hilarious and I’m sure her point is to emphasise that dd loves spending time with them but it’s making me feel upset and irritated in the process when I already hate leaving my dd every time 😞. She even went as far last week as to send a video to me of her keep saying ‘shall we go see mummy shall we go see daddy’ and laughing when dd says no whilst she plays in the garden. This week when she dropped her off she told me again and then stood there in front of me saying to her do you want to see mummy trying to get her to say it again! I’m trying super hard not to bite back because even this morning when I asked dd myself as I was getting her dressed if she wanted to go and see her grandparents today she said no, so I guess it’s not personal and there’s no truth to it, as I also know she loves being there, but she still said it & I’d never have said that to them as I’d think it’s obviously not nice to hear but they don’t seem to mind saying it to me in return 🥲🥲🥲

it just feels embarrassing too 🥲

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Fmlgirl · 09/07/2025 08:58

Is it a different culture? My Chinese MIL would do stuff like this and find it quite funny. Honestly OP I think it’s a bit cruel, I would just ignore it. This doesn’t mean at all that your little one doesn’t want to go home. She likely doesn’t understand yet and had a fun day at grandparents. My son is 25 months old and even pushes me away and says ‚no mummy‘ and only wants daddy and I try not to let it get to me.

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