arrgghh I shouldn't click on those blasted when did your dc threads!!!!

[yawningmonster]

I have mostly reached a plateau with ds where I am happy with where ever he is at and know that while he is late to do things he does do them eventually (so far anyway) Why oh why do I click on those threads and then privately start to stress about them (hmm he is really behind on that one, maybe this time we need to intervene battling in my mind with ok ds is fine, he will do xyz when he is ready)
Does anyone out there have a dc that is NT but just at the late end for everything?? The only thing he has ever done early is hair (he was born with a mullet!

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oh dear

well, both of mine did the following late:

rolling - 11 months

crawling - 12 months

walking - 17 months

speaking for DD - 2.5

potty training - DS was 3 and DD is now 2.10 and still resolutely in nappies!

for there to be an average, some kids to things earlier and some later

"Does anyone out there have a dc that is NT but just at the late end for everything?? "

You're slipping into it again! I do the same and stress over suff he "should" be doing by now, on one hand the earlier we recognise it the better vs he's fine, he'll get there!

thanks to both of you,
I am actually not too worried whether he is NT or not just not sure when I should leave it up to him and when I should provide some extra support if you know what I mean

I do. DS has only just started pointing (1 yr) all other babies seem to do it at a ridiculously young age. He still doesn't wave goodbye

afaik no pointing at 18mths is an issue so 1 even though there may be some who do it early he is still well within the parameters and I think that is the same with waving if that helps (I know this as I looked it up when ds was younger and not doing these things)

oh dear. MY DS is nearly 15 months and doesn't point, and rarely waves goodbye. NOw i@m fretting . He can't walk yet either, but he IS gorgeous and can say 'duck' and 'book'

anyway, hello yawningmonster, how are you?

I do this to a certain extent, definitely with DD's talking - it really was rubbish for ages and I was starting to worry a bit, now you'd never know she was 'behind'. Also the blinking potty training, but she has done that now - totally on her own terms, of course (I quail under the force of her ^personality>). But you know, probably your DS will be juyst the same as all the others in a few years time, I bet eventually we'll forget at what point our children waved/got out of nappies/talked in sentences etc.

I don't think I'm helping much, but I suppose I'm saying please don't worry (easier said then done). Both of mine haven't been particularly advanced in anything much (unless you count TEETH in DS) and I have learnt to switch off my competitive streak at playgroup etc. because it's just bad for me and because actually I'm sure they're perfectly bright children - as I am sure your DS is as well - he certainly seemed so to me!

also I tell myslef that DD not conforming to things and being slightly odd in some ways is a GOOD thing, she will be a quirky, interesting, successful adult . But seriously, you so often hear successful people talking about the problems they had at school and not 'fitting in' - there's got to be something in it. I think of that when she's bolting, or refusing to sit anywhere near us at music, or screeching at us etc. etc.

hello mjc long time no see, how the hell did that little bundle of loveliness get to 15mths already!!! I know you are right, just having a bad day, sick of the 'oh xxx did this that and the other at 3 hours old' type stuff. Alot of the time it is actually quite damn convenient when he can't do things eg the walking thing didn't happen until close to 18mths and twas great not having to charge after him. Glad to hear about the potty training. We are finally in pants here as well though we can still have a bad day like today 'um mum dont go in your room ok" "why not ds" 'I think it is a bad idea' (making way to bedroom at this point whilst ds is making self decidedly scarce" large wet patch on bed, ds reappears "I said it was a bad idea, can I wear my blue trackies now" DS is also going along with the I am three I can be a spawn from hell just because I am three road which doesn't help at all

I don't think MN is a gauge of the 'average' anyway - if there's a thread that says 'when did your ds do x', I'm almost certain it attracts replies from those whose dcs did x early and therefore is skewed.

ohh thank you mn... that is what I need to hear, especially when I click on one of those threads thinking oh I'll answer this I maybe able to reassure original poster only to find them worried they only know half their alphabet at 1 years old and should they intervene, makes my blood boil at times

lol
My DS can only count up to 62 - should I be worried?
When I say he's pointing now, he points at things that interest him (birds in the garden etc).
His little friends seem to have been able to "Point at your bear", "Point at the TV" since about 8 months old

I am finding 3 hideous TBH, but there are glimmers at the moment when she is being very sweet, and all the imaginative play stuff is really takin off which is entertaining. Also she goes to preschool 3 days a week which has saved my life, she LOVES it.

yes, nearly 15 month . I am glad he wasn't an early walker really, probably very sensible anyway as it's harder for DD to push him over if he's not on his feet...he achieved a bit of walking today with one of those wooden trolleys with bricks in which was exciting.

MNersanonymous is right as well

ah yes the glimmers of sane rational loveliness are just a ploy to lull you into a false sense of security in my opinion. Damn smart of your ds by the sound of things far less of a fall if you start from ground level, though sounds as if he isn't too far off

did you know that indoor play area we went to that time is gone by the way, damn inconvenient when they take away sanity savers like that I am sure the weather causes loads of the crap that ds throws our way

Dd2
Sat at 6 months
walked at 9 months

She's 2.2 now and still does'nt talk and only points at a few things.

yes I DID! my friend went (on my recommendation ) and it was closed.

really annoying, as Lollipops is quite expensive (and more so in the holidays) and often full of older children.
we have been to a cafe in town which has a smallish play area, and she seems quite happy to play in a few places around and about which gets us through...but it's preschool that's the big lifesaver.

If your DS isn't doing multicultural thermodynamics by the age of 2 you really should speak to your HV. Unless of course he's doing quantum mechanics, which is similar but at an entirely different atomic level - in which case he may be OK.