Complaint teen - is this normal?

[Justworkingitout]

14 year old step son (very sweet polite boy) so compliant at home and at school. Does all homework (eg gives homework updates to his dad, such as when he’ll do it), never argues, never shouts, will never do anything that may be ‘wrong’, never gets into trouble at school, goes to bed etc when told. Even if he wants to get something from a cupboard (for example) teen will stand there quietly till the person (who is in the way maybe) has moved and teen will not say a word. The only thing is that he is very anxious about time keeping and travel plans especially if they change. Normal behaviour for a teen (the compliant part) or should we be worried?

Sounds like he's secure in your parenting and life.

Well he's not like any of my teens were😆however that doesn't mean there is anything wrong ..he may just be a gentle easy going type. However I'd keep half an eye incase his compliance is also based on anxiety. But if all is ok at school and he has friends... you may just have hit the jackpot of an easy teenager!

I had one of those at 14, he got a bit grumpy between 15 and 16 and now at 17 he's delightful again. Apparently my DH was very like that as a child too.

DS1 was also fairly compliant, but lazy! DD is a nightmare

He sounds like a lovely lad. Does he have friends and go out socially?

Maybe one or two but he doesn’t go out that much.

Yep that’s what I’m concerned about. He’s very anxious (almost obsessive about timings) and seems so worried about doing anything ‘wrong’ and seems inable to assert himself or is very hesitant about stating his needs eg he doesn’t like dinner but he won’t say anything!