18 Month old hates mother in law

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my daughter seems to be really uncomfortable and gets very upset when around my mother in law & her immediate family, it is usual for her to take a little bit of time to warm up to certain people but she is generally very smiley and happy around strangers and is happy around my family but not my husbands and its not like we spend more time with my family i would say its a similar amount of time but she gets very upset and just wants to be clung on to me and i don't understand why or how to help her?

Think we need more detail. How are these people with your toddler? I find certain of my family members can be very intense, expecting a toddler to just hug them and play with them straight away and are generally really in his face...my baby completely rejects that. Can't blame him. He needs to warm up to people, prefers more gentle people etc.

At that age, I wouldn't be too concerned. Kids that young get scared around people, especially those they don't see often. And especially those who they don't see often and need to interact with.

Unless there is something else going on? (Do you have a reason to think they don't like you and her? Or do you not like them and are looking into to it because of that?)

If not, just keep encouraging, and don't stress if they are clingy to you + shy, its normal.

I think they could come across as more intense maybe too loud actually now you mention it, they don't force a hug or anything they cant get close enough shes too upset

i was thinking though that it couldn't be because she doest see them often because she does and she has met friends of mine only once or twice and has warmed up with in 10 minutes and not cried at all when as soon as the in laws walked through our door the other day she started crying, we have had to leave 2 family meals with them recently also because of her inconsolable crying which i am happy to do, i wont force her to be uncomfortable but i also know its upsetting to my in laws as they want a relationship with here

They defiantly do like my daughter but there is some animosity between me and them but nothing has ever been said out loud or in front of my daughter, i would love for her to have a close relationship with her grandparents and i'm defiantly not reading into it, it is so obvious to everyone in the room at the time that she does't feel comfortable or happy around them, she will cry every time they make eye contact but its only with my husband family specifically his mum