6 year old behaviour

[EL96]

I’m really struggling at the moment with managing my 6 year olds behaviour. I’m not sleeping because I’m going to bed overwhelmed with emotions From the day. I’m a single mum and work full time. Can’t afford to live on my own so still living with parents. With working full time my parents help out a lot with childcare etc but lately tensions are high between me and my parents because of my sons behaviour. I’ve tried many strategies of consequences when he’s misbehaved but nothing phases him he just doesn’t care. Any suggestions for anyone who has gone through this and managed to get out the other side without having an actual breakdown welcome! TIA

No wonder you’re struggling @EL96, all of that does sound overwhelming

Can I ask for an example of the things he’s doing?

How is he in school? Have the Teachers raised any concerns?

And how does he do on this simple progress checker?

thank You for your reply❤️
examples of what he does
-won’t take no for an answer so if he’s told he can’t do/have something he goes from 0-100 starts having tantrum has been even lashing out hitting/kicking

-he can’t seem to wait so if he’s asked for something and I reply with “yes just give me one minute” he starts shouting about how he needs it now etc. I’ve explained again and again “I haven’t said you can’t have it you just need to give mummy one minute to finish what she’s doing”

-he’s started saying things like “I hate you” which actually really upsets me as when I was growing up this was something I would of been really told off for saying it was something “once you’ve said that there’s no taking it back” I know he’s probably not meaning it he probably doesn’t even really knows what it means. I’ve explained to him that it’s really not nice to say you hate people and it upsets people to hear that etc.

when he started school last year he had a few moments but I think that was just the big transition from being in a small nursery to a big school as it only lasted a few weeks. I spoke to his teacher a few weeks back and she said he was so good at school she said obviously he’s 6 so tries to push boundaries but alls she has to do is say his name and he stops! She did say the “I hate you” may be copied behaviour as a child in his class with SEN says it a lot, so I’m ok with that as that can’t be helped and it’s kind of clarified that he’s just copying it and not really knowing what it means.
his teacher said he’s doing really good with all his work he’s above target on everything apart from his handwriting where he’s still slightly behind but she said even with this he’s so positive and doesn’t give up just keeps trying.