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Please Help - worried mama - 12 months old

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cansuuucan · 04/06/2025 15:54

Dear Parents,

I am a FTM and I am, myself, a single child. I have never had kids growing up around me and my husband is the same. We do not have a benchmark to understand if all I will be listing is typical or non-typical, therefore your help is greatly appreciated.

Our baby is 12.5 months old. She was a colicky baby and first 3 months were very hard. She then settled after she started moving. She was always a little ahead with motor skills always. She started taking first steps at 11.5 months old and walking by 12 months already.

Few of her traits that is on the positive side:

  • She says mama clearly when she sees me. She calls our cat by his name. She babbles and screams all the time at home, looks eager to speak but no more words yet.

*She is walking all around. No spinning, no tiptoe walking.

*When we enter the room, she smiles and get excited. She runs to us when we pick her from daycare with a big smile.

*She understands us most of the time. We ask ''where is the dog, X?"' and she will bring her dog. If she cannot find it, she will look at my eyes.

*She sleeps good at nights.

*She looks at my eyes when we are playing 1-1. She brings toys to me. She points me things that she cannot do and asks in a way for me to help her.

*She plays herself for max 5 min and cries and looks around for me/my husband.

*She points since 10 months old. Sometimes hand pointing but certainly index pointing as well. She does not necessarily look into my eyes back after pointing something. She waves (80% of the time when you wave), she blows kisses (80% of the time, when you say ''kiss?'') and she claps occasionally.

Some traits that make me question she is being on the spectrum:

*She walks and I keep calling her maybe 5 times 'X...X....X....X....X.....'' and no response. She keeps walking and being in her own world.

*If I ask her, ''where is the cat, X?'' or ''X, look at here'' then 75-80% of the time she responds. Name alone only responding is maybe 30%.

*She started not touch certain foods like sticky ones. It was not the case prior to 12 months. She has been largely spoon-fed but she was OK to grab everything.

*I hold her in my arm and call her name ''X..X..X..'' and she does not look at my eyes...

*She takes a bottle before sleep in my arms in a bit dark setting. She does not look at my eyes during bottle feeding and she looks around the room.

We talked to pediatrician and of course sent with ''this is all normal.'' Please let me know what you think... Appreciate your help big big time!!

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Saiaryal24 · 09/06/2025 16:29

Another worried mom here.Going through exact same with my little one.She looks at objects name,peoples name,but donot respond to her name alone properly.She also donot give much tye contact while eating and bottlefeeding.Also she donot sant to wear anythjnh on her head like hairbow,hairclip anything.Please update what your health visitor says about this.

BunnyRuddington · 10/06/2025 07:10

@cansuuucanits difficult to tell as so much of what you’ve said is exactly what your Paediatrician says, normal baby behaviour.

Did they assess her by getting you to fill out the 12 month Ages & Stages and the 12 month Social & Emotional Ages & Stages?

@Saiaryal24has your LO had her 12 month check yet and dod you fill in both of the assessments that I’ve linked to? Smile

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