Please help with really violent child

[Catmumj]

Im looking for some advice. Im at breaking point and don't know what to do anymore with my son. He has just turned 6 and is so angry and aggressive. He has spent the last hour or so attacking me for trying to get him into bed. He pulls my hair out and kicks and has now starting punching me in face. If I move him away from me he screams and charges at me to hurt me. I can't leave him in the room by himself as he will smash it up. He gets angry whenever he doesn't get his own way or when he has to do something he doesn't want to.
I have already been to the doctors and they just said its down to the school to make a referral. School don't seem to think he needs a referral even though they are aware of his anger issues.
I don't know where else to turn. I have had early help out to try and help us and he refused to engage with them. I have done a parenting course to see if that would help. I don't know what else to do

Anyone?

That does sound extreme @Catmumj.

Can you go back to the GP tomorrow? I would write a list of all of your concerns. I find it a bit hard to remember everything once in there.

Are you, or someone else, able to film him in these rages to show the GP?

Has anyone mentioned trying the Explosive Child?

I would also do this simple progress checker today and if it says that he needs some support, then ask the GP for a referral for a hearing test and some SaLT.

It might be worth speaking to Caudwell Children too

And if you’re fighting with him at that time of night to get him into bed, how much does he sleep normally @Catmumj?

@BunnyRuddington
Thanks for the reply. Yes I think i am going to have to go back to the GP and try again to get some help. I had made a list of everything last time I went and the GP didn't have much to say. Just said sometimes boys can be a bit more aggressive at this age. So not really much help but will definitely try again and maybe ask to see a different doctor this time.
I have briefly read through the explosive child before but will give it another go. Thanks will try that progress checker now. Luckily he still gets SALT at school

@BunnyRuddington it normally takes me around an hour and a half to get him to sleep. I definitely think some of it can be overtired but he just doesn't go to sleep for a long time. He used to wake regularly in the night and wake up very angry but I give him a magnesium gummy which has helped a little. Doesn't wake up so much in the night now but still ages to get him to sleep

I think that going back to the GP is a really good idea.

Our DC2 really struggled with getting to sleep too. Other things they struggled with were speech delay, emotional regulation and a extreme anxiety about different foods.

It took us a long time to get a referral to the ASD pathway and if I had my time again I would have insisted more when they were younger.

You don’t have to have a diagnosis to apply for an ECHP though or DLA. If you head on over to the SN Children Section the MNers in there can help you with dealing with sleep, getting him an ECHP and DLA

@BunnyRuddington thank you so much for all of your advice. Its been really helpful

Absolutely no problem. Let us know hii or e you get on