Toilet training - any advice - don't know what to do next!!!

[greenbeanie]

Hi there, just wondered if anyone could offer any advice etc. My 1st ds decided at 2yrs old he didn't want to wear nappies anymore, had one accident and from then on was instantly potty trained! However 2nd ds has other ideas, he is now nearly 3 and I am convinced he is fully aware of when he needs a wee/poo but it doesn't bother him in the slightest. To the extent that one evening we took his nappy off as it was almost bath time and found him wondering around the kitchen leaving large blobs of poo in a trail behind him, that he kindly pointed out to us!!! We've tried bribary etc but he's just not bothered. He starts nursery in September and needs to be out of nappies by then - help

Hi greenbeanie,poor you!! I only have one suggestion that you have prob tried anyway but worked with my 2,have you taken him to the shop and got him to choose some really special "big boy" pants? My ds2 was so thrilled with his and was desperately upset if they got wet or dirty.
Good luck and remember that he will be in pants when hes 16!!!

Neither of my 2 DSs were remotely interested until they were 3 1/2. I'm sure they could have managed without nappies before then as they both got the hang of using the toilet within a couple of days. But they didn't want to so I didn't push it - I waited and talked to them about it every couple of months or so until one day when I asked if they were ready to wear pants they said yes.

I don't think it's something you can decide for them - they have to be ready and willing or it's going to be a long, painful process.

Why does he have to be toilet-trained to start nursery? The nursery my Dss attended weren't bothered at all that they were still in nappies til they were 3 1/2.

I think it is against the law now for nurseries to refuse to take a child because he is still in nappies; all nurseries have to have facilities to change a child's nappy or they are discriminating. If this is the case then it at least takes the pressure off the situation for you and he can do it in his own time, all kids are different, it took my dd ages